My wife moved out over the weekend with her biological daughter, my step-daughter in with a family friend he has a big house with apartment downstairs. I don't think she has done anything with him yet, but he is single and I know that they dated in the past at least a couple of times. My instinct tells me that she hasnt done anything yet, however I do feel the longer she is there the greater the temptation. I have done a lot of praying, and do not want to separate, however we are at a stage where space apart is needed. She still has not moved all of her stuff out of our house, she has been coming over and spending a few hours packing and then leaving, she has told me that she is supposed to look at a house on saturday and then if she doesnt get it she will have to put her things in storage, she keeps telling me that she feels homeless and I tell her she has a home. Does the fact that she is taking her time moving out mean anything? We could not even communicate until today, are we getting to the conflict stage or are we still in withdrawal? Please pray for me, I have told her that I will do what I can financially to help her move as long as I feel that nothing Immoral has taken place and I believe it, I just don't think that she would lay up with that guy with her 17 year old daughter there! Please pray that I am able to continue to communicate so that we can get to a point to get back together and start working on the things we need to do to have a happy, healthy marriage!<P>------------------<BR>Eugene

Eugene,<P>I feel your pain. Take it slow and <BR>easy. Be positive when you see her but dont overdo it. We are here to support you. Continue to pray and use this time to reflect and change what you can about<BR>yourself. Take care of yourself. God <BR>hears prayers in his time.

Hi Eugene,<BR>Glad you found this support here - even if the reason you are here sucks...<P>Just a few words from personal experience. The fact that she is taking her time moving out simply means that she is still conflicted and confused. If you really want to eventually reconcile, you will want to think about a plan for how to deal with her during this separation (read the info on this site about lovebusters and Plan A and B). Since no affair has been revealed yet, you may want to continue to try to fill her lovebank with a Plan A - just be careful about tying your loving/supporting behavior to demands (e.g. I'll support you as long as nothing immoral is going on - there is a place for withdrawing support from her to protect yourself once you decide to go Plan B) because this sends a mixed message, may be viewed as controlling and is certainly not encouraging her to be honest with you if there is something going on.... I speak from painful personal experience here.<P>OK, she's moving downstairs from someone who is single and whom she used to date? I don't mean to be cruel, but it is likely that they are already involved - moving out is a big step and it seems unlikely that theirs is a platonic relationship. Sad to say, thoughts about the children rarely influence betrayers when they are "in the fog" . Just be aware Eugene and be prepared with how you will respond if you find out the relationship is more intimate.<P>Stay in touch,<BR>Starpony