Have any of you noticed just how much adultery there is on tv? I never realized until my H's A and our recovery (2 months now). I have had to leave the room while watching "Terminal" when Tom Hanks speaks to a woman about meeting her married lover, and then the other night on "Lost" the story line went into detail of Juliette's affair with a married man. They hit too close to home and I get up and leave the room. H says he understands and he comes to give me a hug and ask if I am okay when I leave.

Yes, it's everywhere.

Every time I see it, it's portrayed as exciting or funny, or both.

On "Real Time with Bill Maher" over the weekend, the panel was reading an excerpt from Hilary Clinton's book that had to do with her "crying and screaming" after finding out about that fat ho, Lewinsky. They were saying that maybe she wasn't ready to be President if she freaked out about something "as minor as her husband cheating on her".

Just another example of otherwise intelligent people being completely ignorant on the subject. Being President (or ANY other occupation for that matter) wouldn't take nearly the personal toll that adultery does. Not even close.

The times we live in.

Where the shameful exists in excess all around us, and we are taught even as children to 'grin at sin'.

We worship the TV rather than God
We are self centered when we need to be God centered
We're proud that we're in the 'me' generation.. putting ourselves above all others.

Heck.. we're even Time magazine's person of the year.

So full of ourselves.. and so empty spiritually.

I have also become oversensitized to this. I really don't remember noticing before. Now I see it everywhere. That Lost episode got me as well. I've had a really hard time focusing on TV since this happened. I thought it was my mental state, but maybe it is this too. It makes me sick.

I don't understand that feeling of "ME" over others...

I do alot of volunteer work (I am an EMT) and I have seen people in the worse situations of their lives and I have made many, many hospice calls and without a strong faith in God, I could never have the strength to carry on, but my H told me earlier this month that he felt he deserved to be happy and that's why he had his A. He put himself over me and our M and that's what is so uncomprehensible!

The fact that television exploits it makes it that much more incomprehensible....

Jeez ... there was even a segment of the Simpson's last night that was spoofing the show Cheaters.

I suspect that hollywood, where marriages often appear to be considered easily tossed aside, just doesn't understand the pain associated with infidelity the way most of us REAL people do.

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Heck even the new (i think it is Avis Rent a car) rental car commercial where the car is talking about the person going to be with another vehicle.

And songs as well, i find myself hearing something all the time now.

Maybe it was there before and i did not notice it but it seems to be everywhere

The film In The Mood For Love is the story of a man and a woman living in Hong Kong in the 1960s whose spouses are having an affair. The emphasis of the story is very much on the BS.

Disclaimers:

This picture is in Cantonese (subtitles!)
It's not melodramatic.
It does not have a satisfying story arc like mainstream American pictures.

If you need those things you'll want to ignore this recommendation. But it's a great movie, and it's incredibly beautiful to look at.

I can give you one more reason to watch it in two words:

Maggie
Cheung

GC OUT

I cannot watch a certain show about women and a city. It all has to do with casual sex and it doesn't matter who with. Ditto for the bored housewife or whatever it is called.

I have better things to do with my time.

I thought about this over the weekend when I came across "It Could Happen To You" with Nicholas Cage. It is shoved at us at every turn in the media from soap operas to feature films.

I ran into this with Sex and the City too. My H tells me I am old fashioned, but I always thought what went on in the bedroom was a private thing and NOT casual but that's what his A was to him until it got emotional.
Geez, am I out of date because I still blush??

Yeah.... does this ever go away? I noticed the Lost thing too last night. My wife says it's hard for her to even watch TV or movies because it always reminds her. I've promised to stop bringing it up when I notice it.

Right after D-Day, it seemed liked every TV show and movie I saw had women cheating (Waitress, 6 Days 7 Nights, House of Flying Daggers). It was very difficult to stomach. After time passed, I became less sensitive to the issue and was able to watch the season of The Sopranos where Tony got kicked out of the house for his infidelities. I can even watch the show Cheaters again.

I'm a big LOST fan and the last episode featuring Juliet being an OW was definitely not my favorite. But it didn't bother me as much as watching the promos for Lipstick Jungle.

One of my coworkers is a big fan of Grey's Anatomy, which I know I could not watch due to the infidelity. I didn't really understand how she could enjoy it, since she knows how tormented I've been due to my WW's infidelity. But I think that most people, not just Hollywood, cannot truly understand the pain of betrayal. I think it's impossible to convey that in a movie or television show.

My H has learned to NOT say anything when I get up and leave the room until later when we are alone. The kids never notice when I leave but he knows if he said anything then they would notice and question us. He waits until later and then will ask if I am okay, and do I need to talk. At least THERE he is considerate of my pain.

I can't begin to watch the first scene in "Minority Report", since it is nearly a re-creation of my d-day, minus the murders.

"The Last Boy Scout" triggered me, too. If you've seen it, you know why.

I don't know why, but the last episode of House reminded me of lemonman. Not even the same kind of thing or roles at all, but House does save his former GF's H's life.

"Unfaithful" came out right after d-day for me. I ac2ally made myself watch it when it was on HBO about a year or so later. I remember people telling me that it was realistic, but I don't think so. The BS kills the OM in the end, and gets away with it.

"Little Children" has been on one of the movie stations recently. That one's probably more realistic, but it would have been 2 painfully full of triggers for me 2 watch a few years ago. If anything, it might go a little overboard in depicting how s2pid wayward's can behave. But maybe not, now that I think about that again!

After d-day, I learned that my W and RM both liked "End of the Affair", even comparing me 2 the BS in that story. That's one of those stories full of romanticizing of the A and painful dramas, with the WW even dying as something of a saint for curing some kid by touching him.

Bad affair movies and TV shows must be written by waywards (at worst) or people who have little or not experience with infidelity and still believe that they can be "love stories."

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I think this topic comes around about once a year.

I USED to watch Grey's Anatomy, then the A's hit, and it was unbearable; it was anguishing to watch; I was a puddle of tears and triggers by the time the hour was up. NEver got a reaction out of PWC.

I love the movie "Sliding Doors". It's a tear jerker in the end, but I like the story line.

And then OTOH, you have movies like "She Devil". I watched that while my FWH was W and was able to laugh and laugh and root for the BS even in the midst of my pain. That movie gives new meaning to the term "The karma bus has arrived."

I don't watch many movies but did see the Bucket List where the Morgan Freeman character is 'set up' for an affair by Jack N.'s character but he refuses.

So what (if any) romantic comedies do NOT have glorified infidelity? Even if there is no adultery, there is usually fornication.

Any exceptions?

Yeah, It's gotten to the point were I think God is intentionaly rubbing my nose in it all the time.
I made the mistake of going to the movies as a distraction on a day I was feelingreally low.
The movie I went to see was sold out so I picked another one just by name not knowing anything about it. BIG MISTAKE!
FFR, stay clear of the Nanny Diaries.

For some reason the OW's name has been popping up in movies and tv shows all the time, and it's not a common name.

My son even fostered a dog with the same name while I was visiting him for a week. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

And yes, those Avis commercials make me want to puke.