Years ago, Orchid said to Mimi,

"Now they have to keep watching out if you will be driving by again. Now how cozy do you think that will make them? Hm..... got some stories to share with you on that subject but that is also how I got them to LB each other for days to weeks on end without lifting a finger."

I'm being the good housewife, taken care of everything, I would love to think they're not so happy. I'd love to be able to stir things up from a distance (secretly of course). Any ideas??

I think anything that falls within the bounds of legal is acceptable in the pursuit of screwing with an affair.

Are there things that you are taking care of on spouse's behalf that can be dumped? Do you have any groups or organizations that you are both a part of that he continues to attend? Cell phones and cell phone plans?

Do you enjoy the same sports? Go watch him play if he's on a team, that's legal. Take a friend who "happens" to have a friend on the other team, or something like that.

Eat at his favorite restaurants. Take a friend with you.

Doesn't someone you know live kinda-sorta nearby where you have to drive past them several times a week in order to get to the friend's house??????? Even kinda-sorta near there?

Or isn't there a store that sells that divine chocolate you just have to have that you can't get ANYWHERE else that is kinda-sorta near there and the ONLY way you know how to get to THAT store is to drive by his house???

Isn't there something that only HE can fix at your house? And isn't it really broken, or making a funny noise? (I think I heard it.)

Isn't he the only one who knows about that thing with the car? And the guy who fixed it last time? And can he just check it out for you just in case, because you thought maybe it was making that sound again, and you know how he took care of it last time and don't really remember.....


Got some ideas?

SB

If there is a time when she is getting home from work when he has been at home, see if you can time it so you are just driving off as she is getting back.

Oh, Neak, I was sure you were going to say "show up in their hotel room"!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Leave something of yours in his coat pocket or car... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

lol I can picture it now... me driving away from her house just as she's pulling in... he wouldn't know I was anywhere near there and she'd have a fit swearing up and down she saw me leaving... that would be too funny! She lives sort of "out" where there isn't another reason to be out there... so if WH saw me, he'd be po'd.... but if she saw me, boy she'd start wondering ;-)

I would do like Schoolbus said and eat at his favorite restuarant and bring a friend. I would make sure the friend was an attractive man and I would find out when the happy couple was going to be there. Your husband will most likely get jealous and the OW will see his jealousy and get mad at him. The best part is you are not to blame because you didn't know that this is where your friend was going to take you or that your husband would be there, wink, wink.

I left an I love you, from your wife or bright eyes in the side pocket of the AWFUL camera that went back and forth for awhile. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I wonder if they ever found it. LOL

I highly second the suggestion of going to a game. I did that and boy did I feel EMPOWERED and HAVE FUN.

While I was really working my Plan A, I did so many things, but truly the best was showing up at the field. I don't know what happened between them, but you can surely bet she wasn't happy.

Sometimes I would just pray and ask G-d for the opportunity and to give me the clarity when he was given me the opportunity.

Just last night, I found out WH wasn't feeling very good. So, I sent him a get well card with lots of special hugs and kisses from ME.

Every little opportunity, take and have fun. Remember what Mimi says, Plan A is ABOUT YOU KEEPING THE FOCUS ON YOU. Be as creative as you want and enjoy what you do. I certainly did.

That's been so done!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> ROFL!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

my WH is basically living at her house, so don't have to hunt them down in the hotels.

Brief T/J

B, if you still have my email, could you drop me a line? Thx. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

This one may not be a good plan if you are trying to recover your marriage. Wouldn't want him to think you had brought a second man into the marriage - especially since you don't like the fact that he brought an interloping woman into it.

Cinders beat me to the punch on this...

Last thing you need right now is to complicate things with another man...unless it is your Dad, your uncle or your brother...nothing that resembles a date if you are trying to save your marriage.

NONE of the MB concepts has anything to do with revenge or getting even.

DARN.

Well honestly, it wouldn't be much fun to play that game at all, not if you are trying to recover your M. I personally don't want to give G-d any reason not to bless me with my M being restored.

few weeks ago I showed up at the house and POS OM was thier so I threw his [censored] out. WW and I are doing much better since then.

I surely don't want to mess up what little bit of a relationship we have right now.... so going out to eat with another man is out of the question.

I do however want THEM to have problems with each other. I like the fact that his "stuff" is still in our home even though he promised her in Jan he would move it out.

Don't know if this is legal or not but I've toyed with the idea of signing WSTBXH up on plenty of fish or some other site, then putting OW's email address so she'll find out. She's terribly jealous of every little thing he does, including spending time with DS. This would drive her insane, even if they figured out right away that I did it. Just don't have the nerve right now is all.

One thing I did when WH were out together one time (against his will) was to secretly dial her number on my cell phone and lay it on the table while we were eating. I was cheerful and flirty and got him to laugh. Then I got him to say that, yes he still loved me and always would. Before he could go into the but.... I disconnected.

This DEFINITELY caused problems between my H and the OW..she NAGGED him about this OFTEN..