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The best marital advice I ever received was...
*To not let my pride get in the way.
A good friend told me how she thought her parents would still be together if they didn't let their pride get in the way. This hit home for me and I put my stubborn pride aside and begged my WH to come home and began a great Plan A, even though I didn't know what Plan A was at that time.
Please don't take this to mean that I think this is the answer to all marital problems, it is just the one piece of advice that really hit home and stuck with me and I felt like sharing.
BW 38 (me)
FWH 42
Married 7 years
DD 6
SD 15
11-2006 H said he wanted a divorce and walked out
3-2007 I told H I wanted him back
3-2007 to 4-2007 D-day's
4-2007 H moved back in for good
Today-In recovery, but a long way to recovered
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A demonstration of humility can certainly be extremely helpful in lowering another person's defensive shields sufficiently enough to engage in a constructive dialog. But begging, pleading and acting needy seldom work and often have the effect of repulsing instead of attracting. Being humble does not mean being a doormat.
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I agree completely!
My point of this thread was for others to post a piece of advice that hit home and made an impact on them. Please share your wisdom.
BW 38 (me)
FWH 42
Married 7 years
DD 6
SD 15
11-2006 H said he wanted a divorce and walked out
3-2007 I told H I wanted him back
3-2007 to 4-2007 D-day's
4-2007 H moved back in for good
Today-In recovery, but a long way to recovered
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hmmmmmmm.....
right now for me, it is the "being still" advice......
it is very hard to put into work, but am practicing daily....lol
not2fun
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