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Finally, we've agreed upon a draft! Now, my gut says certified mail...comments?
I'm covering my bases for the time a few weeks from now if she tries to contact him and uses the excuse she never got the letter.
Thanks.
Me 44, H 42, DS 16, DS 13
H/EA 4/07, D Day 10/17/07..
500th d-day 10/14/08...
NO RAIN...NO RAINBOWS!
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To me sending it certified seems like overkill. I could totally see her contacting your husband after receiving the letter to "discuss" it or to vent over it. Crazy people have their own logic. To me, whether or not she tries to contact your husband is far less important than his response to it. There's no magic bullet that will allow you to control this woman, so I guess I think your efforts are better spent rebuilding the love and trust between you and your husband than trying to build the perfect wall to keep this woman out. I'm sorry, I know this might not be very comforting or what you want to hear, but for some weird reason I have faith in your husband and I think he will do what is right.
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I would send it certified mail. That way you have one less thing to wonder about, you will know for sure she got it. She probably will try to contact your WH after getting it, so make sure he really understands what NC means and make sure he knows that if she does try to make contact he needs to tell you immediately.
If he does tell you OW tried to contact him make sure you do not get upset about it and thank him for being honest and open with you. If you get upset he might not tell you the next time because he won't want to hurt you. This is one of the rationales waywards use to justify their lies and hiding things.
BW 38 (me)
FWH 42
Married 7 years
DD 6
SD 15
11-2006 H said he wanted a divorce and walked out
3-2007 I told H I wanted him back
3-2007 to 4-2007 D-day's
4-2007 H moved back in for good
Today-In recovery, but a long way to recovered
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