In case anyone didn't notice, the PM feature is now active. I would suggest using it judiciously as it has led to some inappropriate relationships in the past.

FWIW,

You can disable this feature in your "My Stuff". Click on my stuff, then click on my prefernces, then select the no box on accept private messages.

MEDC,

I don't know why the decision was made to enable this feature with the board update. I am pretty sure though that the moderators and the administrators have access to all PM's.

You have the choice to disable it. I respected that the feature was disabled before and I respect that I have the choice to disable it myself.

My only guess... and this is a long shot is that perhaps they left this feature enabled as a level of protection. I mean protection in the sense that it might reduce the number of people who trade emails. I think sometimes some might be unaware how much identifying information can be found out from email.

Don't get me wrong, I don't have any issue with people who choose to email each other... but I really don't see that much difference between emailing and PMing. If your boundary is to not communicate with members of the opposite sex privately then it would seem that disabling the PM feature and not emailing would be holding to your boundary.

thank you

MEDC,

Your request will be respected.

I thought the subject of your last post was noteworthy and I wanted to note that the feature could be disabled.

Jilly

I guess this feature has been disabled after all. I sent myself a test message yesterday. Today I tried to send a REAL message to someone and got an error message saying I'd reached my limit on PM receipients.

So if you're gonna send ONE... make it count. LOL

While anonymity can provide a secure world of one dimensional delusion a much more dangerous route is enabling PM's.

The power and protection of this board is anonymity. Mark me down as voting that it is a terrible idea. PM's are playing with dynamite

BTW so are MB regional get-togethers.

and why are get together's dangerous?

hasn't one of our board's most respected members, melody, had at least one if not 2? i think it was she anyway. the pix were on faith's pick board!

we had one up north last year. and you know what? i made some wonderful friendships from it. all of us who met were single so even if it had turned into a dating sitch it didn't matter, we were all single!

i see what you are trying to say, but i really see nothing wrong with it. it was fun, we had lunch, we went home. it is nice to put faces with names and just laugh and blow off some much needed steam.

mlhb

MrsK and I made the trek from Sydney to Dallas last year to go to Mel's get together and met many friends from the boards.

I can see it would be a bad idea for people not in recovered relationships to meet up though - can be dangerous.

Happy Birthday BK,

I don't know if my PM went through, but I wanted to wish you a great day.

Queenie

Thanks Queenie!

Looks like they disabled PM's again.

How weird, they told me I was over my quota at one. Hee hee

that would be because the "quota" is zero

Math must be your strong suit.

What are you doing for your day?

Working sadly but a nice seafood meal tonight.

BK, Happy Birthday. I hope you have a great day.

As to private messaging...mine seems to be working just fine. (correction...it is working for the people I had already sent messages too. I am unable to add any new people to my list).

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