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Today we have been married 20 years! Last summer I thought I would spend this day alone and in the middle of a divorce.

Wow! Here we are together and happy. I just wanted to say thank you to all who were here for me. You helped to save my life, my marriage, and my children's home.

Last year at this time tst's A was igniting. March, has many special days for us: our 1st date anniversary, our wedding anniversary, and the birth of two of our children. So, knowing that his A developed during our "special" month made me feel that I had lost "our month". tst did everything in his power this entire month to restore our special days and to help me through. He created some wonderful memories for us this year. He sent me flowers about 15 different times (I LOVE flowers). He gave me cards and gifts. He took me out and we took the family out. Just about everyday, he did something to show his love and commitment to me.

THIS is the man I fought for. THIS is the man I wanted back...not that cray alien that possessed him for 9 months.

Thank you again. I hope you'll celebrate with us.


Happily married to HerPapaBear



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I'm so happy for you and know how hard you two have worked for this.

Mazel Tov and may it just be the beginning.

I love you SMB....

Enjoy the day, you SO deserve it.



BS 52, FWH 53, Married 1-1-84
D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
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I am so happy for you both. I pray that your recovery continues strong and that your wounds continue to heal.

You are both very special people.

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I got chills when I read your post SMB. I am sooo happy for you guys. Congratulations and may you celebrate your 50th some day!


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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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CONGRATS!!! I am so happy for the two of you. Let's see if you can at least triple it. smile

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That's awesome.

What TST did for you was amazing. I am so happy for you *I'm* crying.....lol.....

Happy 20th Anniversary SMB & TST!


Husband was unfaithful to me before and after our marriage, at least 7 times. I found out 13 yrs into the marriage. Trickle truth for an entire year. Several different d-days, so it was more like a d-year. Difficult recovery.



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SMB, TST,

I just wanted to say congratulations on 20 years. I'm so happy for both of you.

I hope you have many more loving and happy years together.


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Isn't it awesome how much you two are loved and appreciated for your journey through darkness to the bright light.

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Thanks everyone! Yes, Queenie, it is awesome!

I knew I had to share our anniversary here with all the people who showed me how to fight for our marriage and for all the people who were here to see tst come home.

We had a wonderful anniversary. And I was thinking, a few bad months (although really horrible) cannot remove 20 years of joy.

OW does NOT win. satan does NOT win. I win; tst wins; our children win...and God reigns in our home again. I'm praising God today for His wonders and miracles.



Happily married to HerPapaBear



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Congratulations, SMB and TST.



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Congratulations to both of you!
I am so glad that you fought for your marriage and that both of you and all your children are WINNERS! Thank God for a SUCCESS STORY!!

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Hoorah! grin

May the next twenty be twice as great as the first 20 and half as good as the following 20.

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Yeah for you two!! It's great to hear that God won another battle! The best wishes for another 20 great years to you and tst!


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Congratulations to you both.

Have a wonderful anniversary and many more.

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