Kim over the years has said that I never listen to her about my faults. Now to my best recollection those that she always complained about were as follows: Not stop talking when she tells me to shut up, ie getting the last word in. I smothered her with Love and made her feel strangled. When ever I made a mistake I always had an explanation for it or in her terms, justify it. I say things sarcastically when I get mad. She also says that I always made her feel like she was not good enough in everything she did.
Now this last one really puzzles me as I have always cherished her and told her how great I thought she was. I have always told her she was very intelligent and beautiful. I have always tried to do everything I could that she wanted. Every goal in our marriage was to make her happy. I do know of a few times where she did something for me and I thought or planned on her doing something else, or something different and I would say something about it and hurt her feelings. As soon as I realized I hurt her feeling I would apologize.
I always thought that in every decision I made I was trying to please her and I always wanted to do whatever she did to make her happy.
Since I found out that she was having an online affair and was making plans to make it physical she has gotten extremely angry with me. Every time I try to have a conversation with her she shows so much anger, all directed at me, which it always ends up in a heated argument. She is extremely quick to say that this is my entire fault and speaks and looks at me with such hatred. She gets really angry if I do not admit that it is all my fault. She continues to talk to this man on line and on the phone making plans for them to get together and have sex. All the while I am suppose to just allow this to go on in our house as she treats me like yesterdays garbage, and I am not suppose to get upset. It is very hard for me to watch the woman I love so much and wanted to spend the rest of my life with, carry on like this with another man.