Hello,

This is my first time here and I am really scared. I found out about 5 days ago that my wife has fallen in love with a man she met on the internet. An instant message popped up and I could not beleive what I was seeing. They were planning on meeting and having sex. They even described what they were going to do to each other.
When I confronted her about it she became instantly angry and started lashing out and saying that it was all my fault. That I caused her to do this, followed by many other nasty and hateful remarks. She is still in the house with me but she is constantly talking to this man on the phone, text or internet right in front of me at times.
The very instant I confronted her she has become extremely angry at me and blames me for everything. My emotions are running wild, I go from confused and hurt to angry and even more hurt. At this point I do not know what to do.
She has made it quite clear she does not want to give him up. I just want a chance to repair our marriage and be the one to make her laugh and be happy.

I'm so sorry to hear the pain that you are going through! I know exactly how you feel, except I found out a week ago, and he is already shacked up with her. It's killing me.. I hope someone who knows what they are doing chimes in here and gives both of us some direction, because I am so very lost. It sounds like you are too..

Bowhunter and Sadgirl:

Both of you should start new threads over on the General Questions II forum. That forum gets much more traffic, and the veterans there should be able to help you both implement Plan A.

Read everything you can on this site.

Thanks,

LoBoy