Ok, I will start this with "I should have known better". My H and I have been married for almost a year, and we've had our ups and downs, but we have a very honest relationship and are pretty straight forward with each other. So here's the deal…last night, my H went to meet some people from work to discuss some politics that's going on at his place. To give you some background, my H is very secretive about his computer account on his laptop. I asked him while I was on travel to get into his account because he didn't give me admin rights on mine and I couldn't download software that I needed. He wouldn't give me the password because he said he had "work related stuff" that was sensitive. I got mad and defensive because it seemed like he didn't trust me. I wasn't going snooping - I just wanted to switch my account to admin but that made me WANT to snoop. He said, " I have to go through the computer and see what I have on there because it's been a while." OK. Soooo…the more he refused to get on his account, the more I wanted to see what he was hiding. On MY computer, we have one account, and it's not a big deal. Soooo, last night, when he went to dinner, I nosed around his computer. He wrote his password down where I knew he kept them, and just HAD to see what he was hiding. Well, there wasn't anything crazy and it looked like he had already gone through his files because there wasn't much there, which gave me some relief and made me feel pretty stupid. Then, I looked at pictures he had, and most of them were of us and friends. I thought, "What's the big deal?" Well, he had a file full of "girly pictures" which I'm not a fan of, but oh well. I looked in there, and there it was, pictures of his ex-girlfriend. I felt my stomach sink, and just shut off the computer and erased any evidence that I was there. Granted, they weren't nude or anything, but still, why the F*** does he have those? They were more like modeling shots (I think she did some modeling, but who knows). I was so pissed. I mean, he has vehemently stated how much he hates that chick, mostly because she cheated on him, and he said it was a terrible relationship. SO, why does he still have these pictures??? Of course, he came home and I tried to act like I wasn't pissed because it would blow my snooping cover, but whatever. I got rid of all of my old wedding photos from my previous marriage, which I spent thousands of dollars on, I erased all of my pictures with my ex and other boyfriends off my computer, I cleaned house, basically. I don’t' need evidence that I was with other people because he's who I want to be with and I'm over my past. What I don't understand is why he has to have these pictures of his ex's, especially sexy pictures. It makes me feel like I’m not good enough. UUGGHHHH…I should have known better than to go on his computer, but I had to see what he might have been hiding from me. I guess I know now. The thing is, that I can't talk to him about it because that'll make him not trust me for snooping. I guess I just have to get over it.