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SC, I think you are touching on what I'm saying. Right now, you dive into family with reckless abandon. You DO activities. These are things YOU choose to do to feel good about YOU.
Frisbee golf being one of them. Doing things as a family can be very fulfilling and uplifting. I think you'll cross the bridge of what you will do next when you come to it. Well then by golly i guess i am a goddess too LOL  I've been telling you this ALL MORNING...that YOU ARE A GODDESS!! Why did I ask if you are IN RECOVERY? It's important to meet your H's need for PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. If HE finds you to be PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE, that's ALL that matters...
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SC, I think you are touching on what I'm saying. Right now, you dive into family with reckless abandon. You DO activities. These are things YOU choose to do to feel good about YOU.
Frisbee golf being one of them. Doing things as a family can be very fulfilling and uplifting. I think you'll cross the bridge of what you will do next when you come to it. Well then by golly i guess i am a goddess too LOL I've been telling you this ALL MORNING...that YOU ARE A GODDESS!! Why did I ask if you are IN RECOVERY? It's important to meet your H's need for PHYSICAL ATTRACTION. If HE finds you to be PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE, that's ALL that matters... I do not by any means think i am ugly, but i am certainly not attractive. And since i don't think my husband EVER found me physically attractive then i don't worry about it.
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"And since i don't think my husband EVER found me physically attractive then i don't worry about it."
OK. I don't care what you say, Still! I think this is BULLCRAP! Ask him what he finds PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE about you???
Pretty please....
I betcha you will be PLEASANTLY SURPRISED!!
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You should definately do this....Mimi asked "Please".....LMAO....
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I was REALLY tired today...but for reasonably good reasons. DH and I talked until late. Then I went to bed and when he joined me a couple hours later, he was in a feisty mood (something we haven't done a lot lately) so we shared a little *ahem*. Then about the time I fell back to sleep, our 4 year old joined us. He kept kicking me but I finally fell asleep. Then the 5 year old woke up (wet his bed) and he wanted me to sleep with him. I did for a little bit and then ended up on the couch until the alarm went off way too early.
I did do my hair and got dressed in reasonably nice clothes (for a SAHM), but no make-up. Just too tired to care. I'd put it on for the evening when DH gets home, but I'm ready to crawl in bed already so it seems a waste.
Tomorrow's goal: Nice clothes, make-up, and hair.
BW 37 (Me).
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06/97 Married.
Three sons...4, 5, and 7.
06/04 EA begins (Unknown to me).
02/10/05 D-Day EA (Unknown PA).
02/24/08 D-Day LTA 3+ YEARS! (same OW).
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I'm so DISGUSTED..not only do we have 1 STAR..but then there's that face, making the thread UNPRETTY... 
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On a POSITIVE NOTE, it WARMS MY HEART to be a witness to all the TREMENDOUS PERSONAL GROWTH which has occurred among the women on this FORUM.
HOW REFRESHING and AFFIRMING!
The folks I personally know to COMMEND are BUGSY, SILENT LUCIDITY, Lil SIS, QUEENIE, SEXY MAMA BEAR, STRIVIN aka RIN, NOT2 and the up and coming SERENITY SOON...
Sorry if I missed somebody by name...
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Y'ALL...
YOU ALWAYS MAKE ME SMILE...
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why thank you very much! I'm working on it! My fingers are on the mend and I'll have nicely painted nails in about a week. I'm trying to get an appointment to have the mop ontop of my shoulders dealt with!-took care of the dark roots this week ;-) Not easy gettin' an appointment around here! And I'm thinking of treating myself to a new outfit when WH takes the kids for the afternoon on Saturday!!
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"And since i don't think my husband EVER found me physically attractive then i don't worry about it."
OK. I don't care what you say, Still! I think this is BULLCRAP! Ask him what he finds PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE about you???
Pretty please....
I betcha you will be PLEASANTLY SURPRISED!! Actually after he said those hurtful things to me in the beginning of our relationship and i told him how hurtful they were to me he then started telling me that i looked GREAT all the time. Who knows what he really thinks. But my goodness Mimi it's not a big deal to me. I mean he married me and has been married to me for almost 25 years so he obviously loves me for some reason maybe physical attractiveness isn't one of his top ENs. Just to make you happy though (since you are Queen Goddess) i will ask him and see what he says 
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Thank you kindly, Mimi.
There are days when I'm not feelin' it, y'know, but it has nothing to do with whats inside me; it's the storm brewing outside myself; one which I know must be riddin' out. No choice in that matter, and that's okay with me. It can pull my spirits down, for sure, but I know I'll be back on high again, regardless. Once the storm surge quells, I feel stronger for having made it thru, and learned something valuable along the way.
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On a POSITIVE NOTE, it WARMS MY HEART to be a witness to all the TREMENDOUS PERSONAL GROWTH which has occurred among the women on this FORUM.
HOW REFRESHING and AFFIRMING!
The folks I personally know to COMMEND are BUGSY, SILENT LUCIDITY, Lil SIS, QUEENIE, SEXY MAMA BEAR, STRIVIN aka RIN, NOT2 and the up and coming SERENITY SOON...
Sorry if I missed somebody by name...
I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Y'ALL...
YOU ALWAYS MAKE ME SMILE... Amen to this!!!
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Well my hubby is not working today so he came to take me to lunch and i asked him what he found attractive about me.
He said "everything" and that is what i figured he would say. I know that it is a DJ but i do not believe he really finds me physically attractive but like i said that is okay.
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EVERYTHING means EVERYTHING, Still. WE know even if YOU don't. You're such a FUNNY goddess!! You also MAKE ME SMILE!!
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SC, I think your self esteem needs some work. Perhaps he does find you completely attractive. But again, YOU need to find things about you that you really love and others will follow suit.
Good luck.
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I want to say to all my goddesses that this is really a problem for me.
I ASKED NICELY...but I WAS VERY SERIOUS...
I'm not sure what I'm going to do about this...
If you read the first post on this thread, it was begun because of my concerns about NEGATIVITY...
I OWN that I am feeling MORE than NEGATIVE...
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I really am okay with myself all of you (i really really am).
I have never in my life been one of those girls that guys "take a second look" at but like i said i am a good person and most people who know me would tell you the same thing.
I am more worried about my internal beauty since my husband's affair. I unfortunately have seemed to let it eat at me and have become a different person that i do not like as much as the person i used to be (which is where MY beauty lies). That is what i am struggling with right now.
Just how to get over this stupid adultery.
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I want to say to all my goddesses that this is really a problem for me.
I ASKED NICELY...but I WAS VERY SERIOUS...
I'm not sure what I'm going to do about this...
If you read the first post on this thread, it was begun because of my concerns about NEGATIVITY...
I OWN that I am feeling MORE than NEGATIVE... So as not to upset the positiveness of this thread ANY LONGER, i am out of here. Go GODDESSES!!!
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Guess what, Still?
I wish more people would know that I am a GOOD PERSON and sometimes I HATE it that GUYS look at me..
I feel like they are DISRESPECTING their wives...
I struggle with just the opposite...
I think my H has ALWAYS found me to be PHYSICALLY/SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE..
I wish he had been more ATTRACTED to my GOODNESS..even now...
The OW is less PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE than I am...
He was ATTRACTED by how she treated him and made him feel about himself...
I have FUN with the FABULOCITY stuff..I ENJOY that kind of thing...just like you ENJOY CAMPING...
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It's not YOU, STILL!!
I DON'T WANT YOU TO LEAVE THE THREAD!!
I ENJOY TALKING TO YOU!!
You see, how this is a problem and I'm a part of it..YUCK...
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Guess what, Still?
I wish more people would know that I am a GOOD PERSON and sometimes I HATE it that GUYS look at me..
I feel like they are DISRESPECTING their wives...
I struggle with just the opposite...
I think my H has ALWAYS found me to be PHYSICALLY/SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE..
I wish he had been more ATTRACTED to my GOODNESS..even now...
The OW is less PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE than I am...
He was ATTRACTED by how she treated him and made him feel about himself...
I have FUN with the FABULOCITY stuff..I ENJOY that kind of thing...just like you ENJOY CAMPING... Well my FWH told me that the OW is so beautiful that everyone in the office was after her (and this was after we were in recovery). But enough with my negative issues on your goddess thread. Thanks for listening.
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