My wife and are have been having problems for a long time now and things just got worse and worse. I couldnt live up to fullfilling her needs emotionaly/mentally and i lost her love. She would goto other people, usually men to talk to so she could have something to smile about. They could always make her feel better Anyways i started trying to change who i was to give her what she needed and things got better but they always came back down because i couldnt get her to stop talking or confining in someone else. Anyways she took her rings off, started telling people she was single and i was the X and she asked me to get out plus she wanted a divorce. For easter her and her parents went to see her brother for the holiday.. well saturday nite she went out drinking with her brother and ended up sleeping with his room mate. The nite she came home i over heard her conversation with him and i got to here about how the sex was and its still tearing me up, i moved out the next day but i just cant get over it. Her and I are still talking and txting usually in anger and we agree that we both screwed the other up mentally. I want her back but shes started a new relationship and she says were too broken right now to fix anything. I knows she right but i dont know what to do, we have 2 daughters and shes giving me every other weekend with them.. This hole thing has gotten me hurting bad, sleeping would be a dream come true.. headaches, cant really eat.. and for sure cant stay focused on anyone topic unless its about her. She also said in a text "If we get through this and buy some chance we do get together again atleast well know we can make it through it all n our love is real" How can we find it again if we arnt together, is there a chance being apart will bring us together? And in the mean time, should i be understanding of what she did?...

Also to bring things up, I told her parents, friends.. i emailed the guy she slept with and yea its no guess that shes pretty mad at me for it. Told me i had no right to do that, and im not to contact her family about her life. I only called her mom cause she went through it with her husband.. when my wife was 14 her father walked out of her family to go start another family. Hes walked in and out of there life alot, they have alot of problems. But i only called her to find out she delt with it, and how she ever trusted him again. Marriage isnt the greatest and she still has trust issues with him.

You do not want bac together! That happend to me and I wanted back together and we ended up getting re-married only to end up in the same boat. she tld me she wanted a divorce tonight and I did not meet her needs. always confides in other men not good

Post your story over on General Discussion. There is much more traffic there. Your wife is having an affair - well, more like a series of affairs. All the info on this site regarding infidelity applies. If you want to save your marriage, start reading, learn about plan A and B, buy the books etc.

By the way, exposing the affair like you did was a very good move - and important part of Plan A. That your WW (wavering wife) was angry is to be expected. WS's (wavering spouses) behave very, very predictably. Read up and learn more. It's your best hope.