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My intuition/gut tells me to trust my husband, we are coming up on one year in recovery and during that year my husband has not done anything that would make me think he is cheating.
He has actually become the man I dreamed that he would. He seems to have really matured and has become a great husband and father to our 6 year old daught.
But then my head tells me I must be an idiot to trust anyone who had so successfully decieved me in the past.
Does this feeling ever pass? Will my head and intuition/gut ever be in sync again?
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BW 38 (me)
FWH 42
Married 7 years
DD 6
SD 15
11-2006 H said he wanted a divorce and walked out
3-2007 I told H I wanted him back
3-2007 to 4-2007 D-day's
4-2007 H moved back in for good
Today-In recovery, but a long way to recovered
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Victoria,
You are in a very normal spot. With time, and your H's changed behavior continuing you will start to feel more comfortable.
It takes awhile to get over infidelity. But all the bad stuff will start fading after awhile. Time will heal you. However, you will never trust him as you did before the A. But it is okay to be vigilant and protect your M.
You are doing great, and very lucky to have a H that wants to recover your M.
Keep up the good work!
Love in Christ,
Miss M
me: FBS
H: FWS
Fully recovered
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Miss M,
Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. I agree that I am very lucky that my husband wants to recover.
It just seems like recovery is taking so long, I wonder if I will ever have a day that I don't think about the OW or the horrible things my H said to me during that time. It is these thoughts that keep me from being able to trust him, even though he has spent the past year proving that he has matured and that he can be trusted now.
BW 38 (me)
FWH 42
Married 7 years
DD 6
SD 15
11-2006 H said he wanted a divorce and walked out
3-2007 I told H I wanted him back
3-2007 to 4-2007 D-day's
4-2007 H moved back in for good
Today-In recovery, but a long way to recovered
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