ok, folks. Been on Plan b for 2 wks. No communication/no lb/ no nothing.<BR>H called last night (left a message) wishing me a happy b-day. I didn't respond.<P>I get home from work today, and saw a letter from my old atty. Seems my ^*%*$#(#%* h told him that I was not following the rules of the law when it comes to visitation (she is NOT spending the night w/him). I am PISSED OFF.<P>Then, he shows up for visitation 45 minutes late-no call-no nothing. He comes to the door and hands me a check (THAT HE WAS SUPPOSE TO PAY ME LAST WEEK)<P>I am boiling mad. I didn't say one word to him. I just kissed my d and told her I would see her at 8:00. He just looked at me with that smug "I got you" look. <P>He is relentless. I couldn't lovebust to him -even though I wanted to do MORE than that. Why is he being SO DA#M DIFFICULT.<P>Sorry, I needed to let off some steam. He is infruiating!!!!!<P>c

CeeCee,<P>He's probably trying to get your goat, dont lovebust no matter what. He wants<BR>you to explode, dont do it. You control your emotions, not him. Just grit those teeth and smile if you must. I'm glad you vented here. Be kind to yourself

CeeCee,<P>He's probably trying to get your goat, <BR>dont lovebust no matter what. He wants<BR>you to explode, dont do it. You control <BR>your emotions, not him. Just grit those <BR>teeth and smile if you must. I'm glad <BR>you vented here. Be kind to yourself <BR>

When my H first left, he called whenever he was going to be late. After he filed, he started showing up really late nearly every time he came - but only when he was coming from the OW's house, not from work - until one day when our daughter decided he wasn't going to show. He decided on his own that it was because he had been coming late, and since that time has been much better about calling when he is going to be late. I think the not calling did have something to do with exerting power. <P>

Thanks.. I'm better now. He just dropped her off, and I was nice. <BR>I haven't LB in weeks (yes-big surprise I know). He is really testing my patience. I am sticking to Plan B. It is helping me get a hold of my emotions.<P>Thanks again.

Keep it up - I know it's hard but it totally disarms them when you're calm and pleasant.

You're doing great, ceecee. I am so sorry you have to go through this. It's awful sounding. <P>Keep up the good work, and I just hope he gets his head on straight!!!<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>

Cheryl,<P>Hey, I'm glad to hear that Plan B is working for you. Also, it sounds like you handled yourself pretty well over the whole lawyer incident. It's a great idea to come here and vent your anger instead of directing it at Hubby. Good for you! One day at a time, right? <P>I'm pluggin' for ya!<BR>--andy

Kate, N-B, Airheart-<P>Thanks for the vote of confidence. It is getting easier to ignore him. He is such a #1 jerk, that my words are a waste on him. I never thought that the man I married, could turn out to be such a louse.<BR>I know this is a marriage builders forum, but frankly, I don't see that happening.<BR>I know, or hope at least, one day he will come to realize what he has done, not only with me and our family, but his 1st wife and children and his 2nd wife.<BR>He has a pattern of destruction and one day it has to catch up with him,<BR>I continue to pray of him and me and All of us. Some days it just feels impossible.<P>Thanks for letting me vent here. I know I whine alot. I hope one day, that goes away too!!