Sorry I didn't see this earlier. Hope you didn't give up and leave. Oh, I've got tons of ideas. My first advice is to set up some sort of structure for your family. It will give you a guideline to stay within, let you know when you're stepping outside what you both previously agreed was what you wanted. For instance, say your H likes online video games. Sit down and negotiate what would be a decent amount of time each week that he could play video games without it affecting you. I said negotiate, because it has to be POJA - policy of JOINT agreement. If you said you thought one hour was sufficient, he wanted 10 hours, he would either quit playing and resent you, or he would do it anyway, and hide it. Neither way is sustainable.
Do that with everything in your lives. Housework, money, childcare, doctor's appointments, everything you guys have to take care of. Start discussing them, and make agreements on what you both think is doable. I'd even write them down in a notebook for referral later on.
Once you've got your 'family rules' down, move on to making your family life more fun, something you look forward to. I like to recommend trying out one new restaurant a month. In your case, with your bills, you might want to make it once a quarter. Try a new park every month, and take a picnic basket and toys for the baby. I'm not just talking city-size parks, I mean the little ones in all the neighborhoods. We used to ride our bikes and ride around and try out all the playgrounds when D17 was younger. Lots of fun.
Find more ways to make your life interesting. Many don't cost a penny. Take up tennis or street hockey. Join a softball team. Plan some day trips for the weekend. Map out the places you'd like to visit in your life, and start saving money to accomplish that (having that goal makes it easier to save for it). Reach out to your family and take trips to visit them - your baby needs a strong outer family. Start a board game night once a week, and take turns picking out which game you'll play. Take turns choosing a movie to rent and have a movie night. We used to set up a blanket and pillows on the living room floor, pop some popcorn, get in our pajamas, turn off the lights and watch a move, pretending we were at a drive-in theater. See if there IS a drive-in theater near you - they are so fun.
See what I'm doing? I'm finding ways for the two of you to spend the recommended 15 hours a week together, to rebuild and strengthen your love for each other. So you'll stay friends and remember why you wanted to be married in the first place. Together, you can conquer all those other little problems.
