Well kids since I've been in Plan B and been very dark I have not posted much on my situation, but I got a piece of information that was not unexpected but disappointing nonetheless. I'll warn any BS whose are still pretty fragile that you may not want to read further.

Those who read my earlier threads know that my WH and I separated in June 07 after 8 years of marriage. I went into Plan B (after doing 3 months of Plan A) when he decided to move in with OW (who is also married with 3 children. WH and I are childless).

I was not able to get WH to sign a LSA before going into so I thought I'd need to file for a D in a few months to get the martial property issues resolved. In my state you must be separated 1 year before you can file for D.

My attorney calls me today and tells me that WH may finally be willing to get things moving in terms of martial property distribution "as they want to get this stuff done so they can get married". So at least (hopefully) I can get the marital property settlement off my plate and the D process will be pretty straightforward.

Now this was their intent when the A got heavy so again I'm not shocked or hurt. I guess I am just amazed they seem to he!! bent on a certain path of destruction and misery--they are both broke, neither FOO will not accept the WH/OW, and her children despise my WH and will not communicate with OW as long as she is with my WH.

I don't know folks--they say not to try and figure out why waywards do what they do, but it's like watching a train wreck.

Anyway, my life as it is...

Smartie

That's gotta be tough for you, but at least you know they'll get what they have coming to them.

They may as well be tied to railroad tracks.

I haven't posted in a long time, and to save time I won't repeat my story, but in a small way, your situation is like mine.

We were together almost the same number of years and my WH is now living with the OW and planning marriage. So I know how painful it is hearing about it. I am happy for you that you can see how they will have problems down the road.

Krazy/S&S

Thanks for the replies. I will say that being in Plan B has really helped me in that I am away from the day-to-day drama of affairland (this is the first piece of information I've heard about their A in very long while). Unexpectedly, I've also found clarity and a little peace.

Now with the impending divorces and nuptials, it looks as if I'm also headed to closer to closure along with the end of my M.

But I know better things await, I just have to get through the journey.

To quote SL--personal recovery is a great gig!

Smartie

Like I told you on the phone and because we are so close. This makes me want to just puke.

And I have a strong stomach.

I LOVE YOU.... Talk to you tomorrow.

(((((Smartie))))))

Makes me want to puke too. Queenie says it so well, doesn't she??

Well, we all know what they don't - that it won't last. It always amazes me how they think that they can jump right out of one relationship and go on to another.

I know that you will be fine Smartie. You have so much going for you, and you are very strong.

We're here for you girlfriend....

Chai

I'm so glad to see you post tonight. I've been thinking of you and want to catch up by phone when things settle down for you.

I love that you and Queenie are "sick" over the whole thing. Me, when my attorney told me the "news" I felt pity, really sad FOR THEM. I see the path WH and OW are headed down and even if they stay together for the rest of their lives--they will never have true peace and happiness.

Ironically, when WH left home he said that's why he wanted to be with OW - to have happiness.

Anyhoo, I hope the move of your business is going well. I'm swamped with school and work this week, but I'll call you mid-week next week if that works for you if that's okay?

I'm so blessed to have you all on MB...

Smartie

Hi Smartie,

Well, as we both know, the happiness that they feel right now can't last. In a year or two, they will have settled into the drudgery of marriage and wonder what they did. Only this time, your WH will have stepkids and her X in the picture to deal with. There will be conflicts over the kids, money, etc. Will be interesting to see how "happy" he is then.

I misplaced your number, but if you still have mine give me a call this weekend. I'm working Sat at the store, but will be available all day Sunday. Would love to talk with you.