S&C, been wanting to do this for a while...

THANK YOU

i'm sorry to admit, for so long, i didn't see it so clearly.

let me expain what i mean by "it".

I didn't count you in as one of those that had a stronger impact on me.

I knew you were there at the beginning in the prayer board which is where I first posted. My experience on this forumn started there. And it started with extremly compasionate and loving people. And you were one of them. I've gone back and re-read those posts. (even though re-reading some of my early words makes my stomach sick)

All along, I did see the times you would tell me you were still here with me and it always was a comfort to read. because i knew you were from the prayer board.

But the light bulb really went off during the thread that I posted shortly after Brooke came around, about how quickly to confess... that is when i went back and read my early posts in the prayer board. that is when i really saw just how much YOU and the others that first posted to me helped more then i ever realized.

I'm not saying that i definitely would of left if i first posted here and recieved the type of "welcome" that i can only imagine i would have gotten had i posted here first.

i would hope i would have stuck around either way.

I've wanted to post this msg to you ever since that "how quickly to confess" thread. I'm sorry it took so long. my only excuse is that I didn't want to start a thread that might cause a debate.

along with the fear that i didn't know if i could adequately say what i am trying to say.

i've bearly looked at this board since the new format. (i am keeping in touch with Brooke. thankfully we exchanged emails before the board shut down and i'm thrilled to be able to support her during her difficult times.)

Given the thread i just read, the one that you posted the above on, i'm glad I came here today. So I can finally take an opportunity to say Thanks. (although thanks is not nearly enough).

I hope this thread makes a diffence to someone who is mulling around the various opinions on the whole "how to post to a newbie" debate.

S&C you get huge credit for helping me stay.

I'm not saying you MADE me decide to stay. Any more then I would say that JL MADE me decide to confess.

I MADE THE DECISION TO STAY. (I made the decision to confess.)

but you do get credit for helping me make that decision.

everything that a person posts here does INFLUENCE another person, whether that be in a postive way or a negative way.

I believe God wanted us to be a part of a world, not each of us in our own solitary vacumm, for that very reason. In order for us to be able to influence each other.

even though in the end an individual's actions are owned by the person choosing to act as they do.

so that was a really long way to say THANKS S&C .

your positive influence on me made a difference

• in my life
• in my H's life
• in my children's lives
• in my extended family's lives and
• in the lives of our friends and neighbors.

and I am grateful.

I want to add an amen to the postings by S&C. I look forward to the words of wisdom he brings to this board. Thank you S&C for your time in helping save marriages.

bumping up to make sure S&C sees this...

Aloha FL,

Sorry I haven’t been around much. Kind of like you, been posting in spurts since the boards came back up. Not going anywhere, just been nose deep in studies for exams that will conclude next week. Then it’s a little hiatus for me and then I’ll be back to visit MB more.

A couple of people sent me e-mails telling me about your post.

I do want to thank you for your gracious words.

I usually don't post much on your threads because you look like you were in such capable hands with JL (one of my heroes). I figured I would be of better use in the background (praying). And with limited time I have, I like to think I actually help more people by praying than posting.

There are times where these forums can be rather counter productive in the cause of saving a M. Where advice isn’t advice, but instead are a reaction to wounds that haven’t quite healed for some.

I’m glad to see how far you’ve come and much you’ve grown since you’ve been here. I’m sure there are people here that can say the same about you that you’ve said to me.

Again Mahalo for the kind words, and perhaps if you and your H ever find yourselves out this way in paradise, look me up. We’ll pull Orchid away from work and have a "short" MB reunion (pun intended for Orchid). Otherwise I guess I just have to wait until we both get to “Paradise” to finally meet.

In the meantime I will continue to check out your posts and pray. If you ever need something, just holler. My e-mail isn’t hard to find, quite a few people know it or just page me here.

Blessings to you and your H.

S&C