I'm all for maintaining civil discussion, but...
In a fit of unexplainable masochism, I lurked briefly over on that "other board" just to see how "safe" it was for BS's and was astounded at how quickly the voice of dissention (or morality or reason, call it what you will) was stifled and eradicated.
That's safe?
I may rankle at times at MEDC's "straight talk", or chuckle at Melodylane's big-haired Texan fervor (where is she, bless her heart), but the bottom line is, without those few who fearlessly call a spade a spade (at least in their "humble" opinions
) this board has lost a considerable amount of it's attractive punch.
I have dedicated my adult life to supporting our American way of life, to include freedom of speech - for ALL. I may not agree with some of what is said here, but I have sworn to defend to the death their right to voice their opinions.
I'm all for shades of grey (even Technicolor!) in
many things, but I think most agree that the very concept of marriage, no matter what your religious, spiritual or cultural beliefs may be,
demands mutual respect, understanding and, most importantly,
exclusivity!
That's why this site exists...to protect, support and build marriages!
I'm all for WS's coming here in an effort to try to understand their actions...with the eventual goal of
earning an "F" to prepend their title.
I say bring 'em on!
In my eyes, they provide the perfect opportunity for BSs to practice not lovebusting, to practice avoiding DJs, to be aware of, and stop AOs, etc.
As for "safe"?...Give me an effing break!!
Today's society has become so completely afraid of constructive dissent that looking at someone cross-eyed has damn near become a crime.
If someone chooses to screw around on their mate and then come crawling here for "support" for doing so, they sure as shootin had better be prepared to be told their moral compass is busted...followed by some tough and clear advice about how to fix it.
As for spending "too much time" here? Who, pray tell are the "quality of life police" that are making that judgment? Everyone has different needs. In my case, I'm neck-deep in a near Plan B/D, and sometimes need to spend a good deal of time here.
Those in recovery have a thread for that purpose...those working to improve a marriage that has
not been marred by infidelity have a number of great forums to help build their marriages!
To each their own.
That's why I like this site!
L2F out...
