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The local radio station has a great way to get someone to confess to an affair/cheating.
The betrayed normally calls the station to tell them of the suspected offending party.
The approach is different for men and for women:
With guys they call and pretend they are from a new flower store and are offering a free promotional bouquet of flowers to be sent to whatever special lady is in their lives.
They say that all they ask is that the guy keep them in mind for future flower purchases and tell their friends about their store.
That usually convinces them enough to say they will send flowers to OW. The betrayed finds out the truth and then radio entertainment ensues.
They take a different approach to women. They have a woman call the wayward female up and pretend that they are from a local health clinic in whatever county they live in. They tell them that someone has come in and tested positive for an std and that this man named her as one of his partners.
They then ask her for a first name of any parter she's been with in the last 60 days and tell her it is simply to confirm the story and whether or not she should come in to be tested as well.
If she's reluctant, they then say a name of the guy the betrayed thinks she's sleeping with.
That usually makes them fess up, the betrayed reveals they're on the phone listening and that the whole thing is a setup by the station.
Radio entertainment, jerry springer style, ensues.
I just thought I'd throw this out there as an idea to help confront.
All you'd need is a good friend or family member to play the parts and pass the info to you.
Just a thought for those of you looking for ways to get wayward to confess or to reveal what they're doing.
D-Day 28 Feb 06
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She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.
Never going to happen.
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Sorry - I don't think anything with "entertainment" purposes is a fit medium for exposure. This whole aspect is filled with pain and lacks the dignity a betrayed spouse deserves.
Cafe Plan B link http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2182650&page=1 The ? that made recovery possible: "Which lovebuster do I do the most that hurts the worst"? The statement that signaled my personal recovery and the turning point in our marriage recovery: "I don't need to be married that badly!" If you're interested in saving your relationship, you'll work on it when it's convenient. If you're committed, you'll accept no excuses.
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I don't believe that's the point. The radio bit is tasteless, tacky, maybe even morally irresponsible but the method is sound.
A little social engineering can go a long way.
There is a time for departure even when there's no certain place to go.
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Yes, the idea is a bit repulsive.
I'm not advocating calling radio stations to expose.
I'm advocating having friends do some social engineering.
My family did it for me. They created a fake myspace account and flirted with my wife online. They revealed that she was setting up meetings and dates.
The goal is to get the truth.
D-Day 28 Feb 06
Plan D (Not by choice) - 24 March 06
DD6
DS4(Twin1)
DS4(Twin2)
She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.
Never going to happen.
Ongoing personal recovery through the help of friends, family, and DC United Soccer!
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hmmmm... how sneaky....
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