Last time I posted was back in July, when my WxH married the OW. They choose 7-7-7 because they think it would bring them luck. I don't know how their marriage is doing nor do I care anymore. It did hurt when they married, I think mostly because it seem the wrongs were being rewarded.

If you don't know my story, here it is and I will try to keep it short. The OW who was married was trying to seduce my WxH and succeed. My WH lost his job and I was forced to work two jobs, his self esteem was low since he was unable to provide and she used that to her advantage. She told him I was neglecting him and she could fulfilled the needs I wasn't filling and this is God's will. She waited til my busy season at work to use her tactics. She is very malipulative. When my WH told her he wasn't going to leave me unless I found out, she made sure I found out. Her Husband filed for divorce immediately, but me and Wh were trying to work things out but the OW was so persistent in getting my WH she wouldn't let us work on our marriage. She try to get me fired unsuccessfully from my job, try to cause friction with me and IL but failed, the only thing she did was manage to get my Wxh. When we separated she secretly had my Wh moved to Las Vegas (of course she came with him) and he filed for a Vegas Divorce. This was the only way, he would had to wait two years in the state of NJ since he didn't have any grounds. The OW lived in DE and was divorce within three months.

Here is the update: A couple of months after they married, the kids at work suggested I should get a Myspace account, I was reluctant, thinking I was 40, and this is a kids thing. Boy was I wrong. I gave in, opened an account and a couple weeks later, a classmate of mine from high school found me. He ask me out for a date, we haven't seen each other since we graduate high school in 1984. We use to hang out together but never dated. He joined the Marines, moved out state and got married. When we saw each other again after all those years, there was an instant connection. We talked for hours and to find out his XW ran off with another man while they were married. We understood each others pain. Also neither of us had children from our marriages. As many of you know my WXH was the only man I had sex with, but that night we did the deed, which shock me but as I said we had this awesome connection as soon as we saw each other. We been together ever since. Both of us are gun shy about getting married again but we are having the times of our lives. I never thought I could be this happy again and I realize how bless I am to have this wonderful man in my life. Many of you know, I am so close to my in-laws, they love me like their daughter and they are so happy for me and has welcome my new man into the family. What I understand my WXH is not happy about this, but I don't care, this is my life and my happiness and I have moved on.

So that is my update. I thought my world walked out on me and was doing everything in my power to save my marriage but couldn't when he moved thousands of miles away, but God had another plan for me and right now I couldn't be happier. It just took couple of years!

BTW, I want to say how much marriage builders help me through my darkess days. Especially Pep, always got me back on track. I couldn't had made with out the support of this forum and this I truly grateful and surely blessed.

What a wonderful story to hear of your happiness today.

I wish you the best of G-ds blessings for you and your new relationship.

Queenie

Hi HD !

I was only thinking about your sit recently.

I am glad for you on three counts :

1. That you do not obsess about your ex. I see many XBS who ruin their new found freedom by obsessing about their ex.
2. That you have the confidence to find some happiness with this fellow!
3. That you do not seem to be rushing into tying the knot with him.

HD, its your opportunity to build a real MB relationship while you have fun doing it Imagine that !

All blessings !

I have one thing to say to you ...... SEMPER FI




Blessing in abundance

Pep

Am I understanding that you are in a sexual relationship with this guy? I don't think this is the best way to begin a relationship and can in fact cause trouble down the road. Please forgive me if I've misunderstood.

You misunderstood....

this is a pertinent fact

Divorce 7/19/04