Rose

I receive your prayers humbly, but most people on earth have it worse than I do today.

All blessings to you and yours

FLT2H...

Have you ever listened to anything by The Casting Crowns? Your above quote brought this song of theirs to mind...I think you'll enjoy it...It is one of mine and Mr. W's favorites-our dd8 too! Here's a youtube link as well~~~> The Voice of Truth by The Casting Crowns


Mrs. W

P.S. I know I'm not your favorite person around here, which is why I didn't jump in to share our story when I saw our names mentioned...I can tell you that our marriage is happier than it has ever been, certainly not because of the affair, but in spite of it...

Hi Mrs W.

Thanks for the post and the song. Yes I have heard that song many times on k-love. No, I wouldn't say you are one of my most favorite posters, but then again, you are not my least favorite either. Not sure if you realize this but I was around when you both arrived and I watched your whole story unfold.

And, honestly, regardless of my opinion of some of the things i have read by you and MrW. that I have not agreed with, I AM very happy that you and Mr W are happily married now. And I acknowledge the benefit of having you both here as an example for others.

again, thanks for the song.

FL

Hi again FLT2H,

Again, in 25 words or less? LOL. I see that you have received good answers to these questions from Bob (on the other thread in Recovery), and I love that song, Mrs. W!

These are a few things that have helped me forgive myself and achieve a relative amount of peace:

Reading a book by Beth Moore called, “When Godly People Do Ungodly Things.” Another book that helped me a lot right after d-day was “Daddy Loves His Girls,” by T.D. Jakes. (Not to grade my own post, but I can't figure out how to underline the titles, which would be correct. LOL)

Remembering King David’s life – Whoa, did he mess up a lot! He paid consequences for his sins, but he and Bathsheba were still allowed to be in the lineage of Christ.

(Also in the lineage of Christ were: 1. Tamar, who disguised herself as a prostitute and slept with Judah, and 2. Rahab, who was a prostitute. Even Christ's own family members messed up, but they were still used by God.)

Reading that Christ hung out with sinners. Matthew 9:11,12

Believing that “He has taken our sins away from us as far as the east is from the west.” Psalm 103:12

However, I will admit that I can actually sometimes begin to feel suicidal if I dwell on the past, so I make an effort not to dwell on it!

The apostle Paul had persecuted Christians before he became a Christian, and he wrote, “...(T)here is one thing I always do. Forgetting the past and straining toward what is ahead, I keep trying to reach the goal and get the prize for which God called me...” (from Philippians 3: 12 – 14, New Century Version)

At some point in the past 5 years, I also read a book of quotes by Abraham Lincoln (who they say had bouts of severe depression). He said, “I have found that when one is embarrassed, usually the shortest way to get through it is to quit talking about it or thinking about it, and go at something else.” What we feel is a lot more complicated than just embarrassment (although there is that, too), but I remember this quote when I need to stop beating myself up. Sometimes I just have to shake it off and concentrate on the present tasks at hand.

God bless,

Rose

Mrs. W. I just now am having the time to watch the video. Thanks. It also led me to this one: East to West by Casting Crowns another great song. There are alot of them here. I've never looked for songs like this on utube. my kids like utube, i've heard of it, they shared various things, mostly beatles songs...

Rose, thanks again.

i'm a bit beat, last two days were full of very long work hours. i think i'll just keep listening for a bit and come back to these wonderful posts tommorow.