My husbands "romantic affair" has been going on almost completely as the books say happens in a "romantic affair". Total craziness. From what I have read, at some point, passion starts fading and reality kicks in for the wayward spouses. I was wondering if anyone can tell me from their own experience if this has happened with them. I guess I just want to really believe my wayward will act normal again (the person he has become I can't even recognize) and try to make amends for the damage he has done.

My WstbxH and OW are still going strong 1 year after d-day. They bought a house together and have accummulated massive amounts of debt furnishing and remodeling it. Financially, they have to come crashing down sooner or later. I have not been made aware of anything that might suggest reality has even begun to creep into their consciousness yet. The closest thing was when WstbxH renegged on his offer to lend DS a car the day before his wedding - I found out later that he and OW fought over it and he gave in. I also know he's added her to the joint account so he's probably going to screw her financially in much the same way he did to me.

Though it hasn't happened so far, I still think they will follow the typical path especially given their debt-load. It is said often here that most A's burn out on their own after 2 years. I'm not sure if that is 2 years after d-day or 2 years from the start of the A. If it is the later, WstbxH's A is coming close. If it is the former, they have another year to go. I don't see reality hitting them in the next few months but a year from now could be a different story.

My timeline is the same as Tabby's and sitch in many ways.

The statistics say that is usually happens and Believer swears by it, almost to the point of carpo tunnel....

But ultimately we don't know really what will happen. We just have to focus on ourselves and build a new life.

In my exWH's sitch, the affair ended about 1.5 years after it started which was about one month after divorce was final.

From what I hear, the reason she dumped him was that he was an American (she is Korean).

Like she couldn't figure that out before she started boffing a married man with children???