My first post was in just found out, been seperated for 5 months and she has been calling me now for a little over a month. She had an affair on me and is still seeing the guy and is calling me wanting to talk and hang out with me and i really do want my marriage to work, i am not sure if i should try to continue talking with her or not, it does not seem that she is willing to give him up just yet. So now comes in plan B, which is a hard thing to try to do when you love someone. Not sure why she is calling me, I have to ask is it because she misses me or things not going so well with him? I do love her but we don"t have kids together and she does not want to work and I"m having to pay her alimony which is not fair... So now i"m at the point that i am not really sure about anything anymore, but i do love her and i have forgiven her is just seems easier to move on...

Why are you paying alimony? Are you divorced?

If not stop financing WW's affair. Cut her off. Take away car if it's in your name, separate finances. Make pay for her own insurance and gas.

Most important time to go NC with WW. Make her and children leave your home until she wants to give up OM. All of a sudden WW showing up at OM's house with kids in tow may cause the OM to dump her because he does not want to support a ready made family.

I promise you i did not want to pay her anything court system said i had to... She went for the juggular i did not, i did not have the funds at the time for an PI wish i did now though...