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Re: Contact with OM if only a EA
bostonbatman #2055139 05/09/08 09:26 PM
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Originally Posted by bostonbatman
So her going to lunch secretly with an old high school friend once a month for the last five months without telling me shouldn't concern me?

But she insists it wasn't inappropriate. Even on here it says the EN of conversation can be filled by members of the opposite sex ethically.

What are you going to do - tie her up and keep her in a closet? Your wife told you there was nothing to them but conversation and you have no proof or even implication that there was anything improper going.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Re: Contact with OM if only a EA
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Maybe you should read "Not Just Friends" by Shirley Glass

See if you can get your wife to take this quiz from the late Shirley Glass. Friendship or Emotional Affair?

Also look at these:
Relationship Vulnerability
Individual Vulnerability
Social Vulnerability

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Re: Contact with OM if only a EA
Mark1952 #2055629 05/10/08 09:25 PM
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bostonbatman,

Our D was final 8/30/08. My H's EA with a work colleague/best friend wore away at our marriage. He was like an addict. He snuck, lied, used every trick imagineable to keep the contact.

I finally went through with the D after backing down a few years earlier. An EA is worse than a PA. It WILL kill your marriage.

Belle, Domestic Goddess
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