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How about giving her a 2x4 with questions such as, "Why can't you be alone and concentrate on the kids?"
Why can't you forget about being with men for a while and think about being a mother above all?
I know and have met women like her, who can't stand being alone and jump from one man to another like it was nothing.
The kids get a parade of men in their lives. Some are there for a few years. Some for a few months.
They get no stability.
So you get those kids and let her go and continue with her parade of losers.
The kids will know who was stronger and there for THEM and not interested in shacking up with any woman that came along.
Be proud of that, cipher. I applaud you for standing up for your kids.
D-Day 28 Feb 06
Plan D (Not by choice) - 24 March 06
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She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.
Never going to happen.
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How about giving her a 2x4 with questions such as, "Why can't you be alone and concentrate on the kids?" Oh, I've used that one several times. Mostly greeted with blank stares and silence, and one time, "We all can't be monks like you"
There is a time for departure even when there's no certain place to go.
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cipher, I just have to chip in that I am so impressed that you take care of all 4 children at the moment. They are obviously innocent and need a safe and healthy environment (like all kids) and you provide it to them. You also did something very good when you took care of your xWW after her OM1/H had beaten her up.
I am sorry that the current situation is chaotic and I hope that it will have a happy ending. Just get that appointment with the lawyer done and let your xWW do whatever she's up to. You have done a humane thing and you can be proud of yourself.
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