Hi all.
The Harley's build a case for MB based a lot on various scientific studies and I think it would be great to gather the original studies all in one place. Maybe I just think it'd be neat only because I'm a really huge nerd. But in any case, maybe some of you can help me find some of this stuff? I often remember reading things but can't remember where I read them. Here is a partial list of what I'm looking for, but I may post others if I forget something. This is a list of facts given by the Harleys and I want to track down the original scientific study or studies associated with them.
If we're successful, maybe the mods can make this a sticky thread...if they have sticky threads on here.
1- The brain of someone in the infatuation stage of love is not similar to someone having a strong emotion. It's more like someone high on cocaine.
2- Marriage counseling usually doesn't work because it's focused on resolving conflict and improving communication instead of on restoring love. Restoring the feeling of love is the key.
3- MB is effective. (Obviously there's lots of anecdotal evidence, here but I was wondering about anything statistical. Also, tell me about any other studies showing that another program or theory is effective.)
4- Divorce is bad for kids and/or worse than a couple who stays married for the kids as long as the parents are amicable with each other. (I'm not sure if the Harley's wrote that second claim but I read it somewhere.)
5- Also, maybe anything objective showing that open marriage, swinging or some aspect of it doesn't work. Something correctly using statistics and that isn't ideologically driven on either side.
6- Under the right circumstances, almost any two people can "fall in love" (read: infatuation). I remember something about experiments in which couples who didn't know each other were put together and told to reveal something personal about themselves and to compliment the other person, etc.
