My husband and I have moved several times for his career. At times we've lived out of the country but each move only seems fullfilling for a few years and then he becomes restless/anxious for change. Lately, he's been dreaming and talking of moving back to our hometown where our parents are still living. I'm concerned because we have a nice home and I know the economy isn't very good in our hometown. How do you wives handle a husband that never seems content? Husbands, how can I support my husband without my world falling apart, again?

I kind of leave it up to my husband to find contentment in his career. I do think some people have more restless natures and that just is what it is, so there's no point in worrying about it or wishing they were different.

Why do you feel like your world would fall apart if you and your husband move back to your hometown? I would hope your husband wouldn't quit his job and move you before lining up a new job (that is where I would put my foot down). Or are you just tired of moving every few years? Have you tried talking to your husband about your worries?

We talk a lot. Yes, I'm getting tired of moving. It was his idea to buy this house.

It's complicated. We don't live in the country right now and one of our sons would probably be happier living in the states and the other is fine living here.

I imagine that if we can get a buyer for our house we will move back. It'll be miracle if we get one.

Help! I need someone to talk to and I don't know where to go.

I talked to my husband this morning. He's very harsh with me sometimes and although he refused to admit it or appologize, I told him that the scripture says to not be harsh with me.

Someone wrote on another thread that when men are depressed they become angry and controlling. That makes me feel emotionally abused. If I tell him that then he gets angry and it's worse.

I brought things up and reminded him of the things in the past year that are signs that he too is depressed. He told me he was on the verge of a nervous breakdown before Easter and he wanted to leave the country last year. We both recieved counseling and things got better for a while.

It's how he responds to me when he needs to tell me no. I begged him to be gentle with me and kind when he needs to say no.

When he doesn't listen and recieve it well, I feel like I'm going to go crazy. I threw something. It was a little earphones. He said I was being abusive. It's horrible. I don't know what to do when he's not listening. He was getting ready to leave for the day and I told him it was a lie. He couldn't go and minister when we were like this.

I was able to de escalate and the final conversation was that we needed to think about what we are going to do.

I can stay here if he'd be content but he's not content here. His work is an hour away and he doesn't like the commute. The place that he's content, I'm not comfortable and it depessess me terribly.

I think it's best to go back to the states, but we have no jobs and no place to live. Here we have security with a home and job.

He's shaking my world because he doesn't want me to nest here. I told him I have to nest, that's how God made me. I feel paralyzed here. Like I'm in mid air. I want someone to care about me. He says that I put more responsibility on him because I feel paralyzed.

It sounds like you really really need some professional help, some sort of counseling again. At the very least, a mediator to help you talk things out and come to agreements on what you can both POJA about. You guys are in a downward spiral.

We've talked a lot over the past few days. This week an appraiser is suppose to come and give us an accurate value on our home and we're going to try and push for a quick sale.

I've had a change of heart and decided that I can be happy living closer to my husband's work.

Our biggest concern is our children. I feel hopeful and feel like we've got some direction.

I appreciate that at least you responded to my posts catperson. I was really lonely and just needed a friend to talk to.

Kids are very resilient, as long as they have loving parents. They'll be fine whereever. My H had an opportunity for a great job in China, but he turned it down so D17 wouldn't have to move. I told him that was a silly reason, that she could actually benefit from such a move.

I'm glad you're talking more. Just try to remember what it was like when you were dating - get back to that relationship, where you wanted to help and please each other.