I think that two of my colleagues have an EA and possible a PA.

Our workplace arranges social activities now and then. I join sometimes and it is nice to meet your colleagues over a barbecue for example. A couple of weeks ago there was a trip to the mountains during the weekend with overnight stay. I did not go.

The next working day one of my colleagues, a man in his 40s, came to work with a bandage around his head. He had been in an accident where he had fallen down a slope and got quite seriously injured. He was taken to hospital in an ambulance helicopter and told us that "Maria" had called for the ambulance. I did not think much about it until he said that "Maria" had picked him up at the hospital the day after. It was not a work day and she had to drive 30 minutes to get to the hospital.

I told one of my friends about the accident and she said that there are rumors about those two, that they are always chatting with each other and that they went on this hiking trip to be with each other. The man is divorced and lives alone but the woman is married and lives with her husband and two children!

What is the right thing to do? I don't know the woman at all, she is in another department. I hardly know the man either. But I feel really bad about this and I am thinking about the OW in my case and how she started "chatting" with my WH and everything that has followed from that.

Probably none of your business. It would appear to be at the stage of a full blown affair, which means it is too late to stop the tragedy that will insue and where you have no oar in the water.

Larry

Let HR know that you find it an uncomfortable situation and you are concerned that the spurned spouse could endanger personell.

See if inappropriate behavior is prohibited in the employee handbook, if so, file a complaint.



I did when I found out my supervisor was sleeping with her supervisor, the chief financial officer, at the school system I was working at.

Pariah

What was the outcome of the story at your work place?

I resigned.

However a full investigation occured and she got demoted to Media Specialist.

I've seen a similar situation like this occur and I was cheering on the co-worker that wanted to "out" the A that was occurring at work because I too had been wounded and could "side" with that decision.

However, the outcome was disastrous for the innocent party that shared the information with the BS of one of the parties. The adulteress found out who had outed her to her BS and made up a story that the employee was harassing her and making threatening calls to her house. The police got involved and everything. The employee ended up being under complete investigation and was ultimately fired for some dumb unrelated issue. It was devestating. All the while, the adultress got away with it along with the other party that both worked there. It wasn't until later when one of the higher up managers "saw" them with his own eyes, but the damage was already done.

If you truly feel that it is affecting your job, tell HR, but then don't talk about it with others, that will only make things worse.

If you're not sure, just let it run it's course because it will all come out in the end. You can't rescue these people and although you feel a moral obligation or some sort of "pull" to do it, like Larry said...you don't have an oar in the water on this one.

IMHO

Before my FWW's affair i would have said "none of your business leave well alone". My perspective is different now. There is a husband with two children here who deserves to know the truth.

Since you dont know these people well I suggest an anonomous letter to the wife with all the FACTS that you are aware of. Be careful to be facutal. From that point let the husband do the investigating.

I was actually thinking about something along those lines. I don't know how far the affair has gone but something in the way the man told us about what had happened seemed so completely innocent. I know it sounds weird but I can't think of a better word. If he would be sleeping with a colleague who is married, would he really have told everyone about the time they spend together?

If they are still on the "just very good friends" stage then maybe it could stop the affair if she becomes aware that people are watching them and talking about them. Or it might just make them more careful but is there a better option?

By the way, the woman is in the HR department. And there is nothing in the employee handbook about inappropriate behavior.