After 14 yrs/ my H and I divorced because he was seeing ow/for 2 years. He initially said he was leaving because he was unhappy but of course I later found out about her.I excepted it and moved on because I felt like we were growing apart and I needed to figure out what I was going through and if I was still in love. To make a long story short - they didn't last a year after we seperated; I moved away to another city and then a week after that he packed up and moved away as well/so as for them ----- it's over!

Since the change of scenery things have started to calm down a bit. Unlike before; we don't fight, argue or say anything about the divorce. It's so confusing to me that -- I think I'm falling back in love and I wonder if the feeling is mutual. Just when I had become comfortable with life as it is, we started to get a long again. Of course we have to talk about those things that concern our son but it's become more than that. In addition to the large amount of child support he has to pay he still contributes to other things -- such as anything I ask for whether it be car repairs or just extra spending money and he does it without any complaints or questions. It's almost as though we're still married but living seperate lives.

I really don't want to read to much into it but I am a bit curious. Prior to the affair we had such a beautiful marriage (I thought) that I can't help but to wonder. Im not even sure I could go back into the marriage and I think he knows that. But what is he doing? And I doubt if he's trying to just get me in the bed because he knows that won't happen either. But what I have done is realized that I do love him and I think I always will.He's always said the same. What do we do with these feelings? Neither of us are seriously dating anyone and if we are we can't stand the thought of bringing them around. I recently found out that in all his business write ups he still list me. Still speaks about me with his family who, for the most part, still has hope of us getting back together. And although some have tried to start confusion between us now that we are divorced -- we always come together and boot them out, everytime.

Is he regreting this divorce-- are am I just reading to much into it? Whats your thought?

I would think it's pretty common for the wayward to realize what he threw away - especially after the affair ends.

But I wouldn't encourage any dating unless he agrees to a lot of good solid work to make sure the A never happens again. Counseling, following MB principles, filling out the questionnaires here...lots of things you can do to foolproof your relationship.

I don't know what your ex is thinking but this phrase made me smile. This shows married or not you are a team for the sake of the children. Protective loving parents, what a wonderful thing.

I just read this article yesterday and I think it is relevant to your situation:
Should I Remarry My Ex-Spouse? If Not, How Can I Just Let Go?