This caught my attention since, unfortunately, there are many religious people, even clergy, that get wrapped up in this garbage. I know the statistics are virtually the same religious vs non-religious when it comes to adultry.

This article is unique in that it gets the BS, the WS, AND the Chruch's side of the story.

I am HAPPY to report that the affair was handled TEXTBOOK MB and the outcome looks very good.

My Pastor Husband Had an Affair

Not surprising. OM and his wife are Catholic. They go to church every Sunday. *edit* hypocrite.

****EDIT****

Must you paint everyone with the same brush, Krazy?

Oi.

Did you read the same article I did, Krazy?

Say

I just get sick of people proclaiming things like "marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman", meanwhile they're out whoring it up like everyone else & causing more damage to traditional marriage than a billion gays ever could.

It's just a shame that they can take comfort in their God. Relief should not come so easy for them.

Ah.

I see.

Thank you for clarifying.

I don't think they are Catholic, not the point but thought I would offer it out there.

Hypocrite? Wouldn’t the hypocrite be the pastor who is not remorseful, someone that didn’t face up to his family, his church and his congregation and instead stood and preached of the immorality of adultery?

I am not the most religious person out there. I believe in God, a higher being. I try to learn about all religions, not because I’m searching for the right one that fits me but because I think that over all most religions have the same belief we just choose to practice in different ways (tolerance please). I put this out there because I do NOT know all when it comes to faith.

From what I think I know, no man (or woman) is perfect. Even those who are deeply religious are not known for perfectionism. Humans by nature are flawed, we make mistakes and if we are compassionate we admit are flaws, ask forgiveness and take steps to ensure mistakes are not repeated. I don’t think these WS can take comfort in God in the beginning - that probably comes later.

Think about, for these people not only have they let down their family, they have let down their all knowing God. While God is forgiving to those that ask, I’m not quite sure I believe that a WS is able to ask for forgiveness while everything is so raw. I doubt any FWS here would say that relief came easy.

I’m not sure how a billion gays could ever cause damage to marriage. You lost me there. I think that only the people inside the marriage can damage marriage, no matter who those two people happen to be.

He was referring to the OM in his situation.

So you're saying I should really read up on everyone before I reply. Makes sense.

My bad. I'm sorry for 'speaking' without knowing the context.

If it helps, if you believe in God you believe in H#ll. OM will likely spend eternity there.

...two hot tubs over from VD(OW).

I'm worried that Satan won't be harsh enough on him.

No they are not Catholic. That was just the uninformed rambling *EDIT*.

No, but the OM in my situation is.

So I guess, by your logic, I'd do the same thing since I'm Catholic?

No, not necessarily.

Most of the kid-touching is done by the higher-ups in the church...not the legions of followers who continue to support them financially and otherwise.

I started this thread with the best of intentions

None of which had anything to do with the Catholic Church

Hi folks! Just a friendly reminder to keep this thread respectful. Thank you.

Thanks Maverick

Thanks for sharing the article, Cajun. I almost wonder if the statistics for affairs wouldn't be *higher* among Christians, because we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect, as well as not being able to be open about it when we aren't. From my experience, it seems many churches see adultery and divorce as "unforgiveable sins" that they won't allow you to recover from. That results in alot of very unhappy people keeping secrets and ripe for affairs.

Organized religion approaches adultery as a sin, period. But change is in the air.

Specific attitutudes and instruction in how to deal with the all too human weaknesses present in all of us are not part of the teachings of most churchs. This is beginning to change for the better. I know of at least three churchs who teach either the Harley methods or a more religious version thereof as part of their adult mission. The LDS has a web site since 2005 that deals with infidelity, and so on.

Larry