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Re: Anyone willing to hold my hand through plan D!
Kag #2057887 05/14/08 07:43 PM
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(((KAG))))

I know how you feel. I don't know anyone who would understand why I might want to save my M. Everyone knows that we are seperated now, and most people know why. Everyone hates him and thinks he is a scumbag. No one would understand unless this has happened to them.

Remember, you best chance is with an MB Plan, so do it right.


BS - me 56
XWH - 57

12/25/06 - Dday - WH promised NC. Plan A in effect. Thought we were in recovery.

6-3-07 - Dday#2 Found out NC never took place and A never ended. Found MB NC promised again, but WH would not write NC letter.

9/07 - Dday #3. Still lying and sneaking around. Plan B implemented
WH wants nothing to do with me

Divorced as of 12/09 after 36 years
Re: Anyone willing to hold my hand through plan D!
Kag #2057917 05/14/08 09:29 PM
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Originally Posted by Kag
This may be crazy but I am listening to every love song on the radio....trying to force all the pain up and out.


Not crazy at all.

I know one BS who watched his wedding video over and over again, in order to get it up and out.

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Decided I am going to be really really nice to myself. Let the house get dirty, so what if the kids are dirty and watching too much TV, let the weeds grow, let the paperwork pile up, maybe get a manicure and pedicure. (trying to avoid shop therapy) Visit good friends. I have always taken care of everyone else...now I need the care.

Good idea.

Ask your friends for support and comfort.

(((((Kag)))))
Re: Anyone willing to hold my hand through plan D!
Marshmallow #2058007 05/15/08 02:21 AM
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Hi Kag how you doing? I hate this time difference!!
What are the 'crazy rumblings'you speak of?

BS;ME43,WH45
DS19,DS16
DDay:6Dec06
WH left12Dec06
DIV:3Dec08
WH marries OW 21days later!
Re: Anyone willing to hold my hand through plan D!
hopenpray #2060735 05/20/08 02:41 AM
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Kag,hope you're ok?....Whats happening in your life?
Hope to hear from you soon

BS;ME43,WH45
DS19,DS16
DDay:6Dec06
WH left12Dec06
DIV:3Dec08
WH marries OW 21days later!
Re: Anyone willing to hold my hand through plan D!
hopenpray #2062491 05/22/08 06:13 PM
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Hope,

So nice of you to think of me smile

WH has been served. Court date coming up for temporary orders. WH has been reading this discussion all along, found out through my attorney. Well I don't have anything to hide.

I was destroyed by his actions but I will be ok in the end. I need to move on with my life.

It is hard not seeing my kids all the time but they seem happy and that is what is important. I just pray they don't get hurt by WH in his 'fog' and ideas of one big happy blended family.

So I surrender, can't hang on anymore it is to hard. I am going through with it and moving on.

Good luck to you Hope and everyone else here trying to save their marriages. smile


[list] BS-Me 42
WH 41
D-Day 8/2/07 (right before our anniversary)
Married almost 20 years
Plan A 8/07-9/21
Recovery-false 9/21/07-2/8/08
NC broken 12/07-2/8/07
implemented Plan B 2/8/08
Plan D 5/12/08
DS 11 DS 8 with special needs[list]
Re: Anyone willing to hold my hand through plan D!
ChaiLover #2062494 05/22/08 06:15 PM
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Chai,

Good luck with it. I am not strong enough to hold on any longer. I am throwing in the towel and moving on with the divorce and my life.

I need to put the pain and drama behind me and reach for sunnier skies.

[list] BS-Me 42
WH 41
D-Day 8/2/07 (right before our anniversary)
Married almost 20 years
Plan A 8/07-9/21
Recovery-false 9/21/07-2/8/08
NC broken 12/07-2/8/07
implemented Plan B 2/8/08
Plan D 5/12/08
DS 11 DS 8 with special needs[list]
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