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#2063482 05/25/08 02:52 AM
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Have we lost the ignore feature with the board upgrade? If not, can someone tell me how to do it?

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Hi !

In an open forum click on the ID of the person you want to ignore.

You will get a menu:

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** anonymous user **
View profile
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Click "view profile"

At the bottom of the profile is a short toolbar:

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Add to UBB Buddies | Ignore this user | Add to Watched Users | Show User's Posts

Click "ignore this user"

Hey presto, all those annoying posts become :

*** you are ignoring this user ***

I use this myself, its very soothing laugh

Hope this helps


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Thanks, Bob.

Life is too short.

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sdguy038 #2063568 05/25/08 01:53 PM
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I use this myself, its very soothing

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sdguy038 #2063636 05/25/08 08:44 PM
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OTOH,
life doesn't have an "ignore" feature like these forums do.

Generally speaking, that's code for "I'm going to bury my head in the sand" and not deal with this contradiction in my life.

Good Luck,

All blessings,
Jerry

shinethrough #2063651 05/25/08 09:56 PM
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When I find posts making me angry. . . when I start questioning the motivations of the posters . . . when I carry this stuff off the board, it's not good for my own mental health. I know veteran posters who have stopped posting here for these kinds of reasons, and I don't see where that helps anyone.

If I can avoid that kind of situation through the use of the IGNORE feature and hang around long enough to help someone else (and I think I might have helped someone during my time here), then it's worth it. Plus, like Bob said, it's soothing.

I feel soothed already!

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I think there is a great deal of difference between facing a post that challenges you to look at yourself, and some of the crap-slinging I've seen around here.

If you wanna ignore, I say go right ahead, as long as you aren't missing the really good stuff that can lead you to change. If you are ignoring something that only harms you, then I say IGNORE AWAY.

Oh, and Guy

STOP IGNORING ME!!!! smirk


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sdguy038 #2063654 05/25/08 10:19 PM
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I'm soothed too! Hey, finding sane SDGUY is one of the best things that has happened to me all day today! Oh, and the ignore feature helps too. I WISH I had one I could use IRL. Geez - whiz. crazy


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I WISH I had one I could use IRL. Geez - whiz.

You and me both, Marie. Did you hear someone else say something?

sdguy038 #2063672 05/26/08 12:54 AM
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In real life you can choose not to live next door to certain people who annoy you, but on MB they live here in your house laugh.

Ignore feature is the politest way for me to deal with cohabiting with some people IME.

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Bob_Pure #2063679 05/26/08 05:31 AM
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i have only used it twice on here in all the time i have been here.
one was for a user we later all found out was a troll anyway. and one time for someone i just don't get along too well with.

works perfect!

mlhb


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mlhbisme #2063687 05/26/08 06:29 AM
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STOP IGNORING MEEEEEE!!!!!


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sdguy038 #2063693 05/26/08 06:57 AM
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When I find posts making me angry. . . when I start questioning the motivations of the posters . . . when I carry this stuff off the board, it's not good for my own mental health. I know veteran posters who have stopped posting here for these kinds of reasons, and I don't see where that helps anyone.

If I can avoid that kind of situation through the use of the IGNORE feature and hang around long enough to help someone else (and I think I might have helped someone during my time here), then it's worth it. Plus, like Bob said, it's soothing.

I feel soothed already!

sdguy - I'm not aware of your situation or who you might want to "ignore," so I'll just give you my opinion.

I think the "ignore user" function should be disabled and not available for use.

We all HAVE an "ignore user function" available to us, we can CHOOSE to read or not read.

Having an "ignore user" button is MOST often used as a "tool" to denigrate someone else and is frequently accompanied with postings of "I'm ignoring so-and-so member." That's a "feel good" sort of thing meant to make the ignoring user feel superior and is a blatant attempt in many cases to marginalize another member who the "ignorer" may disagree with.

In short, I think it's just another form of "If you won't play the game my way I'm going to take my bat and ball and go home."

If a veteran member stops posting for these reasons, that is FINE (even if it's a bit childish in some cases). They are exercising their right to NOT READ and are extending that right to ALL posts and all members. Or maybe they are just simply tired of the time it takes to read and post, especially given the repetitive nature of this site, and are leaving because THEY no longer need help (which is what usually draws someone to MB in the first place).

"Ignoring" a disagreeable member is similar to a Wayward Spouse mindset of ignoring reality and only listening to things they want to hear. LEAVING MB (as you mentioned some veteran posters have done) is similar to "Plan B" going dark, and if made permanent, similar to a divorce from the "habitual use" of MB in an "addictive way."

So I basically support any member's right and/or decision to post or not post, to read or not read, to LEAVE MB or to stay, to even use the "ignore user button" if they want to, but I do NOT support putting the "ignore user button" out there as some "public action" that is touted for the sole benefit of the person electing to use the "ignore user button." Do it or don't do it, but do so for yourself and make no mention of it.

This whole issue of the "ignore user button" has come up many times before, and usually the reason for it is some idea of having to "protect others" from whatever the "ignoree" is saying.

And that's a pretty arrogant and condescending attitude to use as a reason, imho.

But others have disagree with me on this issue, and I'm sure that will also be the case this time around.

sdguy, I am proud to say that you have NOT tried to say who you want to ignore, you have apparently just "done it." Good job!


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Originally Posted by silentlucidity
STOP IGNORING MEEEEEE!!!!!
Sorry, you say something, SL ? All I saw was ** you are ignoring this user **

laugh

You made me actually LOL with that Silent laugh


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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa.......

Can ya hear me now?


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silentlucidity #2063699 05/26/08 07:29 AM
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i think i am deaf now, thanks alot SL!

i might have to start ignoring you grin

mlhb

p.s. when i used ignore it was NOT because someone did not take my side on things or that i did not want to hear what they had to say. it was someone who on more than one occasion had been sarcastic with me and said some not so nice things to me. so, instead of dealing with it anymore, i put this person on ignore after i had repeatedly asked them to STOP posting on my thread and they would not. it is easy to say "just don't read it" but come on. you know you are going to read it! and then you are going to get all worked up; and it is just not worth it. i look at ignore kind of like plan b. i don't have to read what the person says and then i don't have to be p*ssed off or hurt or whatever in the process.


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** you are deafened by this user **




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sdguy, I am proud to say that you have NOT tried to say who you want to ignore, you have apparently just "done it." Good job!

Quite the contrary...he did announce the person...it is that knowing and learned Mkeverydaycnt. wink And not only did he announce it...he then started a thread called ignore in order to find out how to use this feature....yeah, okay. sick

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see, medc is one user i could not put on ignore.

not only do i usually learn something from his posts, i find his sarcasm and non-subtleness refreshing and humorous at times! even the times we have not agreed on something (and i think that may have only been a few) i have not wanted to hit "ignore".

keep up the good work medc!
oh, and happy memorial day!

mlhb


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:eek:

Thanks MLHB.

You have a nice day too.

Personally, I think we should have a "liar, liar, pants on fire" emoticon to use for postings! crazy

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