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Sort of new to this so please excuse my lack of knowledge on shortcuts.
Married for 10+ years, three kids and think things are going great. Wife gets involved with a social networking webpage and gets in touch with several old friends. One of the first 20 contacts is the guy she dates before we started seeing each other. Guy still had very strong feelings after they broke up (no funny business on my end, we started dating 6 months later but I know him).
She initiates via this website and he instantly starts asking about her parents, etc. Personal but pretty harmless in my mind. Recently history on the web browser starts getting erased every now and then. Then find out she is checking his page about three times a week...when I ask she gets very defensive and says I am weird. I am nearly 100% positive they haven't seen each other...but it is all weird to me.
What should I do here?
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Jump in with BOTH feet and put a stop to this. Install a keylogger on the computer and ask her to stop communicating with him.
This is an affair waiting to happen.
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Jump in with BOTH feet and put a stop to this. Install a keylogger on the computer and ask her to stop communicating with him.
This is an affair waiting to happen. 100% agree.
Me 43 BH
MT 43 WW
Married 20 years, No Kids, 2 Difficult Cats
D-day July, 2005
4.5 False Recoveries
Me - recovered
The M - recovered
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I'd guess 50% of the affairs here are with exes, and many of them via "old days" websites.
Stop it RIGHT NOW, do not be embarrassed about being so forceful.
Tell her " I love you and our M too much to allow the top risk of affairs happen unchecked in our life. You have to stop this contact right now to avoid us a whole lot of hurt."
Don't believe denials until she verifies them to you.
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No need to worry about her getting on me about checking up on her I guess? Again no signs prior to this but wanted to make sure I wan't being over bearing by worring...
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My H had two affairs with old g/f's. All it took was one "innocent" phone call and the flame ignited. Nip this in the bud, it is completely innapropriate.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
DS 15
OCDS 8
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