Can anyone relate to this?<P>Everyday, I receive several calls. It's gotten to the point that I screen almost all of my calls. Whenever I pick the phone up, no one is on the other line....or they are on the other line, but not saying a word.<P>I used to blow the calls off as tele-marketers, but now I'm not so sure. I DON'T feel any gut instinct, which I usually do when I am suspicious of anything, but I wonder if it could be the OW?<P>My H's affair ended many months ago, and we hadn't heard from this OW? Mine & my H's relationship is so good that I don't believe he is even in contact with her. Besides, why would she call now? Maybe it isn't her...<P>I did the *69 and all the phone says is that the call cannot be located. The OW is in the phone book and in the internet directory, so I'm sure that if she called, then the *69 would tell me.<P>Anyone have any ideas on what this could be?

Get those all the time, even more so since the affair. Not sure if it's connected though.<P>------------------<BR>Joan <P>"Turn your wounds into wisdom..." That really cool black gal who was on Oprah all summer.<BR>

If the caller is blocking caller id, then *69 would return the error message that the number was not found. Do you have Caller ID on your phone line? If so, telemarketers usually show up as "out of area" or "unknown" whereas callers who have blocked their number from showing up say "Private Name" or "Private Number". That's how it works on my phone anyway. I, too, had been getting a lot of hang up calls where caller ID showed up as "Private Name". Turns out it wasn't the OW, but her HUSBAND. He finally did get up the nerve to actually talk to me and told me what was going on with my H and his wife. Since OW H told me what was going on, I haven't gotten any more of those calls.

NoTrust: It sounds like the person calling you is blocking her number before she calls. Your phone company (at least mine does) can give you something (free or very cheap) that will not allow those calls to go through. They will get a message like, "the party you are calling does not accept calls from someone who blocks delivery of their number, hang up and call again without blocking the number". Lisa

NoTrust - I get them too. They don't hang up, they just keep the connection open until we hang up. Very weird. I was gonna block unidentified calls, but my work blocks their number (permanently) and they won't call back and enter the "unblock" code.<P>Very weird. We never had them until H left.<P>Lori

NT - Boy, can I tell you about hang-up calls! One time I think I got about 8 or 9 in the space of 1 hour or so, on all three phones in our house (which all have different numbers - two are in my W's in her home office, one in our kitchen). I was *69ing like crazy, only to get a similar message, "The number you are trying to reach cannot be dialed by this method." Or some such. Since I know my W is still in her affair, I ASSUME that it's the OM, and that he uses these calls as a kind of signal to her. (If it were a telemarketing glitch, we wouldn't get them on all three phones, I don't think. And if it weren't him, I think she'd call the phone company and do something to stop them, since she's that type.) Anyway. Regards and blessings,<P>--Wex

i have a lot of experience with these<BR>calls--the caller is blocking you can<BR>take the suggestion before me to get<BR>caller id and block the calls from coming in- also you can call the telephone annoyance bureau in your area-<BR>you can also file a police report and<BR>try dialling *57 this is call trace <BR>and works on most lines even if the<BR>caller blocks - the trace goes directly<BR>to the phone company and the police can<BR>work with the phone company if the traced # comes up 2 times - call telephone anoyance they will give you more info if it persists insist on talking to a person at telephone security by calling your local carrier<BR>these are some of your options or also you can change your # and make it completely private. good luck

No Trust, <P>Psychological terrorism! Thats what I call those hangups. Put up with it for many years, changed the phone # twice. Now have caller ID and have any unidentified calls blocked. Called the phone company and they won't put a block unless you get like 10 a day. The police won't do anything I tried that one too. See why I call it terrorism. The person justs wants you to know they are still lurking. I hope for your sake it is telemarketers but I wouldn't bet on it. Keep on the alert. The OP just wants to be a presence, can't stand to lose. <P>------------------<BR>eyes wide open<BR>

I went through the same thing, they started after my H told her he was staying in the marriage and changed his cel-phone number so she couldn't keep calling him. Some nights I'd get several calls, some nights none-usually saying nothing but waiting for me to hang up. The number was not available with *69 but after I got call screen and blocked out her number the calls stopped.....gee, I wonder if there was a connection....

trying - you just made my day with your *57 suggestion! I am definitely going to try that next time we get a hang-up. *69 actually tries to dial the caller's number back for you. Presumably *57 just tells you what the number is? Do you have to set it up beforehand with the phone company or will it work if you just do it? Thanks,<P>--Wex

what if you were to say " I know who this is, and the calls better stop ", think that might work?<BR>I know with telemarketers, its computerized, so their computer dials your number, and the person does not come on until the computer tells them that you have answered. So, it make take a few seconds.<BR>Nobody should have to put up with these annoyances in their own home.<BR>Maybe let the answering machine screen calls??<BR>Ian

Hi everyone....<P>Thank you for replying and for your suggestions. Tomorrow, when I get those calls again, I am definitely going to try that *57. Hopefully, I will find out who it is.<P>My Caller ID needs a new battery, so I'll have to set that up too.<P>Yes, I believe I have my phone set up where a recording comes on and says that my phone number won't accept any calls from anyone who has their number blocked.