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Actively visited the boards back in 2005...when husband said he didn't love me anymore and I needed a support site to see what others were going through.
Where should a couple start when trust issues exist? Not sure if you'll need more background to point me in the right direction or not.
Struggling Servant
Me = 32
DH = 33
Married 9/9/99
DD = 6 DS = 4
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Hi SS,
Trust is one of the foundations of a good M. So you probably need to head back to MB basics.
Trust in a M comes b4 love. In an A or other dysfunctional type of R, there is no trust.
Please read His needs/Her Needs by Dr. Harley. Good place to start. Go back and read the Basic Concept section above.
Call Steve for a session or 2.
That's a good start.
JMHO,
L.
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SS, what are the trust issues? Who doesn't trust whom and why? Are you each trustworthy?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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SS,
we attended the Retrouvaille program. it has helped both of us learn to trust again.
hugs,
cgw
BW: me (52)
WH: him (51)
D Day #1: 8/14/04 (OW #1)
D Day #2: 12/10/05(OW #2)
M'd 28 yrs, together 32
DS: 25, 17; DD: 23
2004-05: False recovery(OW#1)
Plan A: he came back...
but is not committed to recovery.
Plan B: lived 10 months off & on w/OW#2
Plan D: nearly final except for mediation
Plan ME: Starting over with MY Life
Plan R: divorce stopped @ FWH request; Retrouvaille Weekend (2/07)
Plan Now:FWH committed & working hard on Recovery
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