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Hey guys. As you know I'm in Plan B. Having a difficult time. Found out that a few weeks ago my WS took my child around OW. Introduced as friend. Well I broke Plan B to tell him not to bring the children into this affair. Anyway, to my knowledge he hasn't. Does this mean he's trying to slowly bring her into their lives? Could she be LBing for not bringing her around his children? So far and it's been a long time and he hasn't brought her around. He has kept her out of the picture. I'm pretty bummed out because I feel like he's trying to take the next step with her. Is this a bad sign or do a lot of WS try to take the children around the OP? Is it possible to recover if I continue Plan B or is that a big red flag that he's moved on?
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Plan B is intended to protect YOUR feelings, not humble him and bring him home to mama. So far he is doing what he has been told to do and that is a good sign for the kids, and means nothing for the two of you, yet.
Wait.
Larry
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Most WS's want to introduce the children to their partner in adultery "friend". I've seen very few who still have the sense to realize that this is just wrong. Hubby is going by the book.
Stay in a dark Plan B.
And let your child know in an age appropriate way that the adulteress is NOT a friend, but daddy's girlfriend, and married people don't have girlfriends.
It is always so sad because they introduce these innocent children to a person who is tearing their world apart.
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Amen,
My W was brought around her cheating father's A partner.
She remembers it to this day.....50 years later....
Protect your children from this outrageous behavior.
All blessings,
Jerry
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Consult a lawyer about a legal separation order and put no contact for the children with affair partners as a part of the order.
D-Day 28 Feb 06
Plan D (Not by choice) - 24 March 06
DD6
DS4(Twin1)
DS4(Twin2)
She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.
Never going to happen.
Ongoing personal recovery through the help of friends, family, and DC United Soccer!
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