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I think you'd be surprised at what they will use an excuse to get their fingertips back on the pulse of the family.

Her own medicine must not have tasted very good. She's been trying to get DD20 to have a relationship with Gollum for a while now. Hearing how she interacted with DGS had to giver her own heart a little PING.

DD20 could have a nice relationship with DGS and a nice relationship with her mother. There doesn't have to be an either/or. WayZ SHOULD be concerned - she was again faced with her failings and having to deal with the consequences of her actions.

If you had separated/divorced under "normal" circumstances, and WayZ conducted herself like you have, DD20 would probably have no problem with Gollum.

While I agree this is much about her relationship with her daughter, don't be a fool and believe she won't try to get to you at the same time.

She hasn't forgotten you and put you in the "memory" box to only take out at will. Your history will ALWAYS be there and will creep back in at times like this.

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ETA: You have yet to reach the two year mark, right? The honeymoon phase of the A is coming to a close. She may be realizing what she is being left with.

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It is sad that she did not apologize to DD last night and ask, “Are you angry that I did not come to the hospital?”

Instead she asked, “Is your Dad angry that I did not come to the hospital?”

She had already laid the burden of not being there on DD20 by telling her that she never asked her to come. She never asked me to come either. It was a no brainer. Even with seepage you could figure that out.

So now she has to perform damage control but without ever apologizing or admitting any wrong doing. A difficult task. Unfortunately, both of these things were never part of Wayzilla’s nature.

This was quite a message to DD; ‘My relationship with Gollum and Gollum spawn can not be bothered by your silly trips to the ER. I will send Grandzilla as my representative to these annoyances, and please don’t bring your father into this. It disturbs my happy place when you do that.’

Once again, I am eternally grateful that I am a betrayed spouse and not a wayward.


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It is sad that she did not apologize to DD last night and ask, “Are you angry that I did not come to the hospital?”

Instead she asked, “Is your Dad angry that I did not come to the hospital?”

I am certainly not schoolbus - but things like this are why I suspect it is not JUST about her relationship with DD20.

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Chrisner,

I have to ask you to please provide the source of your quotes for us ignorant saps that can't quite get the reference. I know I've hear the stuff before, but....just....can't....place it.

I missed that it wasn't Wayzilla at the ER but Grandzilla.

Yes, kid in ER is a no brainer. I drove an hour to see mine when it happened in the middle of the night. No brainer.

Wow. Simply amazing to me.

That makes my thoughts of Wayzilla even worse.

I applaud you for being respectfuly to Wayzilla's family. I do the same on my end but don't get it in return.

Take pride in not stooping to their levels of behavior.

It certainly is better to be a BS than a WS.



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She moved away with the kids April 08. I contested it and got a lot more time with my kids. She's unhappy that I want to stay involved in their lives and don't settle for being an "every other weekend" dad.

Never going to happen.

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I'm NO Schoolbus either, but WZ's questions are interesting, to say the least. I know when PWC finds someone else, I will be AT LEAST curious about his GF, and her relationship with DS, as well as her relationship with PWC. It's human nature. I won't obsess, or ask questions of DS about GF, because that is inappropriate, but I'll be curious.

Papa, the quote came from the movie Galaxy Quest.


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Looks like ya'll got this topic covered.

All I can say is:

Fox - RIGHT ON!!

Silent - RIGHT ON!!

Pomdiddy - RIGHT ON!!

Chris - RIGHT ON!! except for calling "Thunder on Wheels" a piece of sh1t. That Subaru took us places where no other Subarus have been before!

Now apoligize to Thundy Mister!!


Oh, by the way, the chicken mail box wrap survided 9 months in the Louisiana sun before it dry rotted and fell off.

RIP chicken mail box wrap, RIP

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Seriously? That's all you've got to say?

All the panty and belly button ring talk yesterday and that's ALL you've got?

Are you SURE that you are BC?

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When the slandering of a car in involved, belly piercings take a back seat... grin


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Ahh, yes. He is still a GUY.
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ETA: You have yet to reach the two year mark, right? The honeymoon phase of the A is coming to a close. She may be realizing what she is being left with.

Yep. The EA is now at the 2-year mark. She admitted to PA activity starting in November ’06 but I believe it started in the September/October time frame. D-Day anniversary II will be Thanksgiving. I think Gollum’s XBW is still providing them with a common enemy adultery so desperately needs but I think the clock might be winding down.

I remember when Gollum came to work and announced his W was pregnant. He did not look like a happy soon-to-be dad at all. Same was still true when his S was born. He is not that interested in custody. It is probably Wayzilla that is pushing it. Can you say resentment? Sure, I knew you could.

Gollum is trying to get her all "porn star" with piercings and tatoos the way he likes it, and believe me, this is not who she is. Can you say resentment? Sure, I knew you could.

Their company is still struggling while their main competitor is moving into a new facility with twice the capacity. If she loses this job she will not be able to get another one within $10,000 of her current salary and she knows it. Living alone has been far more expensive than she planed. Bulldozers wait on the horizon pointed at her house. Her relationship with her daughter is about as bad as one can get and of course the little glimpses she gets of my life indicate all is well and getting better all the time.

And of course, there is DGS.

Sucks to be a wayward.

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I don't like talking about thongs or panties in a negative fashion. whistle



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Can you say resentment?

RESENTMENT!!!



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Sure, I knew you could.

Ya caught me. laugh

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Sucks to be a wayward.

Yup, and I think it sucks to be Wayzilla - specifically.

Tick, tock, tick, tock - the karma bus is comin' 'round the block.



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I don't like talking about thongs or panties in a negative fashion. whistle

Another LOL moment.

BC, you kill me.

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Their company is still struggling while their main competitor is moving into a new facility with twice the capacity. If she loses this job she will not be able to get another one within $10,000 of her current salary and she knows it. Living alone has been far more expensive than she planed. Bulldozers wait on the horizon pointed at her house. Her relationship with her daughter is about as bad as one can get and of course the little glimpses she gets of my life indicate all is well and getting better all the time.

And of course, there is DGS.

Sucks to be a wayward.

I just thought that all beared being repeated, so I pasted away...

It's like watching a train wreck. Yikes!

And with the bunched panties and all, must be soooo uncomfortable.


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And with the bunched panties and all, must be soooo uncomfortable.

Hopefully she doesn't have a piercing somewhere ELSE. blush

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Hopefully she doesn't have a piercing somewhere ELSE.

Gollum only has to ask. Maybe already has.

His XBW was a very educated, pretty sophisticated woman and I don’t think he had much luck with her getting tramp stamped and pierced. Wayzilla is pathetically doing “whatever it takes” to satisfy her love stallion.

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Wayzilla is pathetically doing “whatever it takes” to satisfy her love stallion.

Or doing whatever it takes so she doesn't bite the dust and have to admit she was wrong.



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Wayzilla is pathetically doing “whatever it takes” to satisfy her love stallion.

Or doing whatever it takes so she doesn't bite the dust and have to admit she was wrong.


DING DING DING DING

Tell her what she's won Johnny!


*ahem* Sorry.. I'll just be over here wink


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Everytime I see the title of your thread:

**The D-Line Station**


I think "DAMM! This line is long - I'm STILL waiting to get on that train."

Any more probes from the "other side" attempting to get through your armor?

How's DD20 doing?

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Nope. Nary a sound. Just the way I like it.

As per Captain Ramius, "Give me a ping, Vasiliwayzilli. One ping only, please."

DD20 is better. The other gland is swollen now too, but the anti-biotics are kicking in pretty good now. It seems to be a pretty stubborn virus though.

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I'm STILL waiting to get on that train."

Yep, we got Bugs and Sis and BC, me and a few other Killer Bees on board now. Unfortunatly, there are plenty of seats on this train.

I still am in total awe that Wayzilla would not stop her lap dance and travel 60 miles to be with her daughter at an emergency room. We all talk about rock bottom but come on, it does not get deeper than the Marianas Trench. And yet she bores deeper.



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