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Let's keep the issues of other boards on other boards please. Please feel free to email any of the mods if you have questions about this introvert.

Welcome to Marriage Builders, we are glad to have you aboard!

Thank you,

Maverick
marriagebuilders.maverick@gmail.com

I'm a member there. Haven't posted for several years, but I still read there. In fact, I was there before I found MB. The problem for me was there was no plan to recover a marriage.

I was going to PM you, but you don't accept PM's?

There are no PM's on this site. Do you need someone to post on **EDIT**

Yes. I would like to expose her in that forum. She's over there telling everyone that she had a one night stand....it was over a month of sex !!!!! She admitted it the other day after 2 months of trying to lie about it. Now, a few days after admitting it to me (after OM told me), she's over there telling evryone that it was one night and I'm pretty much an [censored]!!! I tried to say something, but got the boot. I can't even access the site to read the crap that she is spewing. She's foggy as all heck. I need to expose her.

I'm sorry, I didn't realize I couldn't say the name of another website here.

It's ok, introvert, carry on!

It's okay. I don't want to get the boot from here too. I'm running out of support groups lol. I kinda need support right now.

LOL, after over 20,000 posts, I've been edited twice. I guess talking about another site is not allowed.

You are better off posting here. There is a plan here, and a way out of this mess.

Introvert:

Note that you did not get the boot, you got edited. The general way this support forum works is that those who participate are here to get help, give help or get and give help at the same time.

You are certainly welcome here. By all means, post your story and ask what you will. People will come out of the woodwork to give you help and opinions. Many, if not most, will direct you to the free works of Willard Harley as the basis for the recovery of your sanity following infidelity and maybe your relationship, with no guarantees. Harley is the man with the plan and the works in various ways. He also has a coaching center that is less expensive than most because Jennifer and Steve, the two professionals who do most of the coaching, don't waste your time or money chasing cats up a blind canyon.

As for mentioning other web sites, there is a rule and I am not sure what it is. I know that I have mentioned web sites many times and have never had the mention edited. I think this is because I have also referred to those other web sites as a supplement for what we have here instead of a replacement. And I have detailed exactly how a particular web site can help people (or harm them) in general terms without a personal agenda. It was the "Personal" angle that likely attracted editing by the moderators. Frankly, there is no substitute for this site. There is one based in Houston that is pretty good, but it doesn't have the oversight of a professional nor the organized plan. It is just a place where people can vent and get such support as is available from lay persons.

I think you should give up correcting your wife's lies. If you will read the material that Harley makes available for free, you will find that lying is a general afflication for those who commit adultery and betray their mates. It is no big deal.

Now tell us about yourself so those so inclined can offer suggestions.

Larry

Can you tell us what your wife's username over there is?

introvert,

It's up to you whether or not you want to broadcast your wife's username all over the internet. But keep this in mind. Once you give up that kind of information, you lose control over how it is used.

If someone gets gets your W's user name it can be used to harass her. If she is harassed and she finds out that you were responsible for it's release; you can probably kiss your M goodbye.

So if you are looking to recover your M and restore the love in it, I'd call to make an appointment with one of the Harley's to get a plan to work on your M. And I'd also make sure that I understand the tools provided at this forum and use them wisely.

The bottom line is; you're already on a rollercoaster ride; because of things you can't control. No sense adding to it by losing control over information that if used irresponsibly, can cause some serious damage to already unstable M.

Just my thoughts after reading your thread. BTW - all it would take is a little info from different sources for someone to find out who the two of you are and where you live.

Blessings.

S&C

I understand your concern, and thank you. But, I'm not sure why soemone would go there to harrass her...that would be kinda strange and demented...I just want to expose her for still lying...that's all.

I know that some members over there said that they would call her out, but noone has as of yet. I don't think it's necessary to be hateful toward her, but the fact that she joined the site and is still gaslighting after admitting to me the very things that she is gaslighting about...I find it all unbelievable.

If you are a member, or would sign up, I'd like a question to be asked of her......

Why would your husband have a knee jerk reaction over the conversation with OM?... (she is stating that it was because of her cell phone records that I saw). It was because OM told me about the one month of sexual conduct (read her posts...she's still saying that it was a one night stand, that OM "talked her into"). She admitted to having sex with him one time...lied to me for 2 months about it...I found OM's phone number...called him...he told me the truth about the month of sex...she finally admitted it...now she's starting threads telling "her whole story"...explaining that it was a one nighter lol. I can't believe it.

Obviously, if someone goes in and asks some questions, I'd like it to be done descretely.

You can read the "real" truth about the situation in my posts. I was (before I got the boot) "hurtnhumiliated".

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Can you tell us a little more about yout situation? Have you exposed to other key people? Are you both wanting to recover the marriage? How did you find out about the adultery?

I was posting at the same time you posted. That does answer some of the questions. Hang tight, some of our resident experts will be along soon. This is a good place to be. Much healthier than the other place!

I found out that they were in a hotel together...she admitted to a one night stand. Since then I spoke to OM, and he told me it was over a month of sex. She finally admitted. My goal is to reconcile...so is hers. But, as long as the lies are still acumilating...how do you even start? Yes, I exposed her infidelity to my family, her family, and our friends...when I caught them out of town in the hotel. Than just last week when I talked to OM...I exposed the "whole" strory again to all of those people...again.

introvert, s&c is exactly right about that. But, you are more at risk than her, because it is likely someone will go and tell her how to find your posts on MB. Then you lose MB as your resource.

We recently had an incident here where a BS was run off this board when his WS found his thread [a man with 4 children trying to save his marrage from an affair] and printed it up and took it to her attorney.

How did she find his thread? Some sorry, mean SOB from this board called the WS' THERAPIST and gave him all the information about the thread and where to find it. This is the not the first such incident where a despairing BS was run off this board because someone informed their WS or OP.

We have alot of good, supportive anti-affair people here, but there are some sharks lurking in the murkier waters you have to watch.

So, please remove the screen name. In fact, I think I will do a mod notify and see it they will remove it.

I think removing the screenname at this point is a good idea before someone from there finds it and starts trouble. I will say, I read your wife's posts, and she doesn't seem to be taking her part in this very seriously. Or maybe her usual personality is to minimize things; I don't know. Please stick around, share your story (minus the names) and don't tell your wife about this board.

Okay. the screen name is a bad idea...sorry guys. I'm just a little messed up right now. I guess if she isn't going to tell the truth, then we are doomed anyway. The ball is in her court


It won't happen again.

I started a thread on my dday 2 in JFO. DDAY 2 was the kicker in this whole mess...even harder that the first dday.