I just joined (and, got edited already ).

When I found out that WW was having an affair, I booted her out...brought her back...booted her out...brought her back. She admitted to a one night stand...I brought her back...found out about more details from OM...booted her out.

The last time, there was an altercation (she refused to go). I stood my ground in the doorway...she went nuts and tried to fight her way into the house...I called 911, and hung up right away, just to scare her, and to make her leave. The cops showed up and saw scratches on my arms. They pressed charges against her (I guess they have to in DV cases...zero tolerances). She has a NC order against her and is not allowed to speak to me. She lives at her mother's now, and I cannot get a hold of her (she is scared to call me back).

What the heck do I do now?

Her infidelity has been exposed to pretty much everyone, but other than that I think I screwed up plans A and B lol.

Help.

Ok. First things first. Let's consider the purpose of "Plan A" and "Plan B"....

The purpose of these two plans is to provide the critical reinforcement necessary to break the affair. I don't know if your wife's affair is continuing now, or not.

The wayward spouse needs a sense that he/she CAN leave the affair and not be "sentenced to life" - this is the purpose of "Plan A" - to show that there can be restoration and "life" after the affair....

"Plan B" is intended to RESTORE RESPECT - affairs happen because the WS DOES NOT RESPECT the BS.

I would advise you to keep the restraining order in place. If she is violent, she needs to get professional help for that before you can ever have any kind of marriage.