Hello everybody ~

I'm new to this forum. The reason I'm here is I'm really trying to improve my marriage.

Right now, it just sucks.

I've known my husband for 10 years. We started living together 2 years ago and got married last October.

My husband has not always been the "glass half full type," however now that we are married and have purchased a home together, it seems that things are getting worse, not better.

I'm the type of person who likes to talk things out to solve problems, listening for the "ring of Truth" to help figure out what path to take. But to do that, I have to discuss it with someone.

I don't feel comfortable talking about marital problems with my friends ~ eh, mostly because I don't want to bore them with my complaints and because they are his friends too. I also don't want to bother my parents because they worry about me endlessly and I don't want them to worry more.

So I hope I can use this place to figure things out, if you all don't mind...

I will go into a little more detail later. Is there an appropriate forum to discuss marital issues? I'm most interested in improving my communication with him and figuring out how to approach him when I feel he is being difficult.

Thanks.

Welcome, BR, to Marriage Builders.

This whole website is about marital issues. You've come to a great place.

You are currently in the General Discussion forum under Other Topics. Communication is talked about here, in the Emotional Needs forum, under Resolving Conflict, Neogotiating and in the Infidelity forums.

You've identified a really important area of being human. Hits just about everything.

So you won't be "wrong" wherever you post.

Have you read all of Dr. Harley's articles on this website? Be sure to read Basic Concepts, Emotional Needs (ENs) and about Love Busters (LBs)...as well as about the four rules of marriage: Care, Protection, Time and Radical Honesty.

To help with communication, you can get his "His Needs, Her Needs" book...there are free questionnaires here on this website you can download and do together (and I think that helps communication...we practice it).

You'll find you're not alone...we are all working on our marriages.

Welcome.

LA