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Re: Chore and Bedtime Issues (With a Little Backst
BlueRidge #2075242 06/18/08 07:49 AM
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I can understand him wanting help with the drive.

I have a suggestion. Since he's 'allergic' to cut grass, etc., can you sit down at the kitchen table with a list of all the things that have to get done at your house, and POJA which things you'd like to do, which things he'd like to do, and then come to an agreement on who will do the rest? That way he could be contributing, but in ways that are less offensive to him. When I grew up I always had dish duty, so today I can't stand to be in the kitchen. So I make D17 do it. wink
Re: Chore and Bedtime Issues (With a Little Backst
catperson #2076586 06/20/08 07:45 AM
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That's a good idea. A household has a whole lot of implied chores that maybe he doesn't understand exist. Maybe if we broke down the chores to INDIVIDUAL tasks... instead of having "Clean the Bathroom" as a task, break it down into "Clean the Toilet," "Clean the Shower," "Clean the Sink," "Clean the Mirror." I could handle the toilet, and ask him to do the shower, etc.

It might work because he often says he is "overwhelmed" when asked to clean a whole room (Says he doesn't know where to begin). If it is one task, he might do it more often.

Okay, fingers crossed.

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