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At the risk of swinging 2x4's I am starting a new thread.
Can somebody clear this up for me? I was in the "abbreviations" thread and noticed this....
"P.U.S.H. = Pray Until Something Happens (CB… NSR... see Inspire (20))"
What is this referring to? I haven't been able to quite figure out what "Inspire (20)" is.
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
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Without looking at the aforementioned thread, my wildest guess is that maybe it's referring to the "inspirational" thread #20? I dunno.
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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How do I find the "inspirational" thread?
Last edited by introvert; 06/13/08 04:35 PM.
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This site was completely overhauled not too long ago and a lot of things have changed. I believe there used to be a forum called "inspirational" (I could be wrong) and I also think that ForeverHers? had a link to an inspirational thread.
Sorry, I'm not real helpful huh? LOL
Widowed 11/10/12 after 35 years of marriage
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“In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists.” Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
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introvert
(I am not even gonna comment on the thread issue....)
I bumped up Krazy's thread for you.....its titled..."A WS with sexual issues post A.....should not be tolerated...."
this may help you.....
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Thanks for sending me to that thread not2fun. I didn't even get past the 2nd page and found this......
krazy,
I was as mad as you were when I found out. I didn't want sex though....I would rather have castrated him. So I DO get exactly where you're coming from. But I realized something that you haven't yet. I told my H that "If what you did doesn't destroy our marriage, my reaction to it WILL. I realized that in that angry state....I had become a bigger obstacle to recovery than the infidelity.
I think it's okay that you feel this way right now. But I also think that you'll never have a good marriage again if you can't work through some of it. If your resentment and anger continues to rage in this way....you might as well let her go before you're both even more broken.
I think one of the things trapping there....is that there was apparently no real reason for the infidelity except selfishness and hedonism. That is exactly how it was for me too. It made the whole thing so much uglier....and everytime I looked at him....I saw this beautiful exterior with a rotten core.
I didn't know how to overcome those feelings....but I did know that unless I was convinced that my husband was capable of true remorse and had a conscience that was developed enough to withstand future temptation....that I didn't want him.
So, what I did....was part of the "conditions" for reconciliation included 6 months of individual counseling to explore his lack of ethics. 100 hours of community service to demonstrate his willingness to recognize the pain of others. And confession to his preist.
I feel for you....I do...but the path you're taking will become abusive and your marriage won't survive it. Please take care.
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That's some enlightening stuff right there!!!
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
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