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This is my first post in the Divorcing forum after having spent nearly a year in GQII. I filed a petition for dissolution and my lawyer said my WW would be served the week of May 12. Since then I have heard zilch. What is the next step and how long should I expect to wait before that happens? The inactivity is frustrating.
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I only know about California. Here the petition is filed, the other party is served, and then they have 30 days to answer. If they don't answer in court, then the divorce continues.
After 6 months, the divorce is final.
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Thanks believer. I'm in California, so your information is completely relevant.
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Because I nit-picked and refused to be screwed over, it took exactly one year to the day for mine to be final and she STILL got everything.
I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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I guess if you filed on the 12th, you should be hearing this week if she has an answer or not.
I read your last post on the GQII. Don't spend too much time regretting the time you've been married to her. You can't undo the past... and all of that, all of your marriage to her, had a part to play in your growth and development into the man you have become, in ways that you cannot even comprehend right now. Just use the experience to make your next choice a better one.
And don't worry too much about "baggage"... I am positive that once the divorce is final... you'll be just fine.
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I guess if you filed on the 12th, you should be hearing this week if she has an answer or not. I actually filed in January but then put it on hold when I thought WW had agreed to the Plan B conditions. On May 12th I contacted my lawyer and told her to move forward with serving WW. Since she's so far away now, it was going to take 2-3 days to even get to the process server over there. With that timeline there's still a possibility it could be next week before I hear anything. But my mind can rest at ease knowing I'll have a response sooner rather than later.
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Hey BHHFSGuy,
Any word yet?
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I'm trying to remember the timeline. But I think I got the notice of entry of judgement about 2 months after everything was filed. Of course, we had already agreed on a settlement. Then I had to wait another 4 months for things to be final.
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I was such a stinker about it that 11 months after my husband filed, he had his petition for a divorce dismissed. I didn't want one, why should I agree? I wouldn't do ANYTHING he wanted. The only thing I really did was counter his petition w/ a filing for alimony pendente lite.
Then, 1.5 years later, I decided the insanity was about to kill me - living w/ no support orders in place. They went away when he had his petition dismissed.
He then counterfiled. So, we danced around for right at another year before going to court.
Took almost 4 years from when he filed until I got my copy of the decree.
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Took almost 4 years from when he filed until I got my copy of the decree. Geez, don't scare me with timelines like that. If I'm not divorced by 2009 I will be disappointed. With no kids, no house and no basis for spousal support, I don't think it should be that hard.
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Hey, that's just my story and my time. You have a different story and you will have a different time. I don't regret the time or the money.....as the BS, it worked out, for the most part, to my advantage.
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BHHFSGuy,
Okay...please update. Proof of service yet, even? What was the date of response due date?
And what does your screen name me?
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Okay...please update. Proof of service yet, even? What was the date of response due date? Still no word. And I don't have the answers to those questions. And what does your screen name me? It's actually the name of a song.
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I thought you would have proof of service (serving her) within seven days of service. There are set requirements, aren't they?
Get on it, Man! Do it for us! Okay, me.
Oh, great...name of a song...oh, you little stinker.
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Oh, great...name of a song...oh, you little stinker. Yeah, I don't know where to start with this one... I checked my iTunes to see if I had any songs with those initials... Can you tell us what genre of music it is? Rock? Country? A standard?
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Hey BHHFSGuy... any update?
Me: 41, INFP
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Nothing has happened and I haven't heard from my lawyer nor WW (other than receiving the monthly check for her portion of expenses). My family, friends and coworkers also ask me what's happening and it's very frustrating that the answer is 'nothing.' I don't want to waste any of my retainer by calling up my lawyer to ask and having her just tell me that she'll call me when necessary. Yet it's been seven weeks with no word, so it gets harder every day not to make that call.
The only thing of small note is that WW ended her phone service with our former cell provider. I don't know if she changed her number or just changed companies. My former intermediary thought the timing was interesting since WW had insisted on needing to change providers way back in October/November.
Oh, and the song is from a movie.
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What has your WW been up to lately?
I surprised that she is still contributing money.
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What has your WW been up to lately? (shrugs shoulders) I dunno. She knows I don't want to communicate with her, so she doesn't. It wouldn't really be fair for me to ask her what she's doing or how she's doing if I'm not going to reciprocate. I surprised that she is still contributing money. She pays me back for certain bills that are hers: car insurance, storage unit, TiVo, etc. If she were to not pay for those things, it would affect her, not me. I don't want to be dependent on her financially and I've survived eight months so far.
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