okay here is my story.my w and i have been seperated almost 1yr. for the last 7 mo she has been asking me to get an apartment.well she is pregnant btw and she uses the excuse that i dont want to get an apartment cause i am greedy and want my freedom. which neithe is true.we have had are issues.when we first got married i left but everything was fine then it just went down hill.so i told her to leave and now she wants me to get an apartment again but i feel as if she does not even love me even thou she shows it sometimes its just not how she use to.she has given me 2 more months or she said she is going to divorce me.

Welcome, Lostisme.

Would you please add some more information?

Why did you leave after you got married? Why did you think your marriage was okay after you left?

Are you living together now? Does she want you to get an apartment for both of you and the baby? Or does she want you to move out? If she wants you to move out, why? If she wants you to find an apartment for you all to live in, why are you reluctant?

A very good place to start is reading the Basic Concepts on the main part of the web site. Also read the articles and letters. It's really the best how-to advice for creating a marriage in which both husband and wife are happy.

There are four guiding principles for a good marriage:
1. Be safe for each other. Avoid behaviors that drain your spouse's love for you. These are called Love Busters and are in that section.

2. Demonstrate care. This means you meet her emotional needs, and she meets yours. Your top needs are probably different from her top needs. You can find lots of information about that in the emotional needs section.

3. Good negotiation. Policy of Joint Agreement (POJA) states that neither one of you does anything that the other doesn't ENTHUSIASTICALLY agree with. "Yeah, I guess it's okay" is not an enthusiastic response. "That sounds great, honey," is enthusiastic.

4. Spend time together. 15 hours of undivided attention time each week. In general, this means you are focusing your attention on each other. Movies don't usually count, but the time getting there and dinner before or after, do count. TV can count if you talk, hold hands, or interact together while watching. But, in general, I find TV makes us lazy. It's hard to listen to the TV and the person next to me.

So, post the details soon. Others will chime in soon. And if you want a lot of responses, you could move this thread to Emotional Needs section.