You can already cash in that bet cause i already know that my lil boy is my awesome gift.( even when it seems like he has taken liquid crack and doesn't want to stay still...lol )

Must be related to my kids....

I swear the only time they quit talking or moving is when they are sleeping.

The scary part is that when they are sleeping, the are actually RE-CHARGING!

yep they're related...lol...
The recharging part is so very very true casue he just keeps coming back with a vengeance.

I wouldn't worry about having to be "father of the year" - just be you. But just to be safe, be kind and caring to your wife and to your children - and the good man that you are.

My dad was an abusive son-of-a-gun while I was growing up. Even now I have a hard time having much more than a superficial conversation with him - we just don't have much in common except that I love him as the man who taught me all that he could with what he had - he did the best that he could. WWII left my father with a lot of mental trauma and alcoholism. Lab chemicals from his job took the rest of him for so long, that it wasn't until he quit that job, got away from the chemicals, quit drinking 15 years later, and then and only then did he become a kinder man that I am proud to call my father. He has overcome so much.

BTW, Road - I don't know that my dad was ever "told" about my mother's infidelity - but I witnessed first hand how he treated her. My mother was 18 when they married. Within 3 months he was beating her up regularly. Her father was angry that she had married my dad and told her she'd made her bed, to deal with it - her father was no safe place for her. Back in the 40s thru 70s, there were no safe houses for abused women - women reporting abuse to the police were shrugged off as their husbands' property to control at will however they would. I witnessed this as a child, btw. Today these kind of incidents are treated much more seriously than they were back then.

You're welcome to read my history on this pregnancy/OC board.

dro i have spent many words trying to say this and others have already said it. it's pretty simple

you just be the best daddy to your son that you can. teach him about Jesus, love, kindness, forgiveness, compassion, empathy, tenderness, loyalty, honesty and how to stand tall behind what he believes

the rest will just fall in place

everyone

I don't want yall to think that i am not listening. I am and i appreciate all the helpful words that you have given me. I do plan and have been to the best of my ability the best daddy i can be. i will continue to do so. I hope that like yall say i will know the right time to tell my boy the whole truth and then see where it goes from there. becasue i do believe he deserves to know the truth.

Thanks Again for all your help
DRO

DRO,



If you do as you plan, you won't have any problems other than the aforementioned drop in IQ. My youngest is now 21, and you know what??? I'm getting smarter, not bad for an old dog in his 60's.




I think he deserves to know the truth as well. Have you really talked with your W about this?? Because it might be better for him to hear the truth from her rather than you. My guess would be sometime around 14 or so. Why would I say that?? Just a guess, but at that time he will start to become more independent as kids do (YOu do know that the teenage years is God's way of telling you to boot them out of the nest right? ). It is about that time you will be having "THE TALK" as I refer to it, when Dad explains to son, how the cow ate the cabbage so to speak.

This is where you explain about his future, he will work the rest of his life, and if he is smart he will start picking out what he wants to do with his life and start to focus on school, training, and how to be a man. I got that talk from my Dad, I gave it to my sons. Most of our friends did the same thing. That is why I refer to it as "THE TALK".

Actually, I think the best would be for you and your W to tell him together. It will be tough on him, but my bet is that he will understand thing such as love, sacrifice, vows, commitment much better once he hears this news. My bet is that by that time it he will have seen you two working as a team for a long time and this news will offer him deep insights into how a team really works.

God Bless,

JL