Zen,
I am a WW and am only 2 months out from d-day. I was doing the exact same thing you are. It might help to read my thread. Trying to move forward, PLEASE HELP is the subject title. If you read through the whole thing you should notice some similarities.
Anyways, I wanted to pass on something that was asked of me.
Thanks Pep, this one was a real eye opener for me.
You committed adultery because you felt entitled to drop your personal standards.
Here is a question:
Why weren't you concerned with dropping your personal standards to the level of adultery? (exclude any mention of what anyone else did - this is about you and you alone)
Also, if you havent already, please read Resonance's Inside the Wayward Mind
When the fog clears you will be able to see more clearly.
I hope this helps you in the way it has helped me.
P.S. The people on here are not trying to hurt you, but like I was told
I don't care if you like me. My goal is to help guide you toward RECOVERY. I respect you as a woman, as a human being, and as a married person trying to recover.
When I see that you are steering toward a brick wall at high speed - I will get your attention and try my best to influence you to steer in a new direction. You may not always be pleased with how I get your attention, but remember, my goal is to help you avoid further damage, not to be liked.
I think that it is safe to say that the people replying to you feel this same way. We can see what you cannot through the fog. We have BTDT!!
