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Why do you think a guy in a relationship with a married woman is a "great guy" ??
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YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR THREE YRS....WHY DON'T YOU CHECK BACK IN ANOTHER 12 AND SEE IF YOU FEEL THE SAME....HOPEFULLY YOU WILL. I DON'T WISH THIS ON ANYONE.
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I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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I am here because my husband asked me to post our situation. You think I don't think about my child. Because I have had an affair in the past and I am talking to a friend does not make me a cruel mother. I feel sorry for my son too. He doesn't see happiness in the home - just cold, crap and living with his grandparents is pretty messed up to. I love my son. How dare you
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"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
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Not sure if you know, but typing in all caps is considered bad internet manners.
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THIS ISN'T ABOUT THE OM. THIS IS ABOUT BEING UNHAPPY AND IF IT WILL EVER CHANGE. OBVIOUSLY, THERE IS SOMETHING LACKING IN MY MARRIAGE AND HAS BEEN SINCE DAY ONE.
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Rewriting your marital history.
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I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top.
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P.S in an earlier post you said: The “friend” is willing to move to the city that I live and leave his two kids to be with me. But then you say: He is not leaving his kids. He only gets them on the weekends because he travels. He will continue to do that. I know that right now it seems like you could make this work. He would move to your state, and still see the kids ever other weekend. but please hear me when I tell you that this sort of thing puts such a huge burden on the kids. The older they get, the more activities they have. GF, or BF, foot ball games, that sort of thing. I don;t know how far the drive would be from their state to yours, but it sounds like it would be too far to go for just a quick dinner, or to sit at a football game on a Friday night. Your OM would miss so much of the simple pleasures of raising great kids. he needs to live close enough that if they need him in the middle of the night, he can be there in 15 mintues. They need to know that there is man in this world who will do that for them. And later, when their lives become too busy on the weekends, they will resent him, and you, if they have to pack up and drive to another state to visit a dad who didn;t care enoguh about them to stay close by.
Married 18 years
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Newly married to a wonderful man!
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I PLAN ON SETTING AN EXAMPLE OF HAPPINESS FOR MY SON BECAUSE HE'S NOT SEEING THAT NOW AND HASN'T IN A LONG TIME.
LIKE I SAID....I AM HERE BECAUSE HE ASKED ME TO. I ASKED HIM THE SAME QUESTION.
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Does he know about your current A?
Me, BW-57
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In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007
FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
One day at a time by God's grace.
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No...I am new to this....I work full time.....their are a lot of people in this world with too much time on their hands...
sorry about the all caps
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I PLAN ON SETTING AN EXAMPLE OF HAPPINESS FOR MY SON BECAUSE HE'S NOT SEEING THAT NOW AND HASN'T IN A LONG TIME.
LIKE I SAID....I AM HERE BECAUSE HE ASKED ME TO. I ASKED HIM THE SAME QUESTION. Well, this site is called "Marriage Builders". If you aren't here to save your marriage, you need to google "divorce lawyers"...son or no son. You are making your home just as cold for your son as your husband is...quite frankly. And, given the fact that your H asked you to join this club, he is a step up on you in trying to recover your marriage...IMO.
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
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Your son will see no example of happiness if you continue in your relationship with your new adultery partner. God does not bless relationships which begin like this, and you are sentencing your child to years of misery.
If you cannot save your marriage, you might consider swearing off ANY relationships for a couple of years at least.
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There is no happiness in a broken family especially if you are trying to blend it with another broken family and replace his good loving Dad with a man who puts no value on marriage.
Me, BW-57
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I PLAN ON SETTING AN EXAMPLE OF HAPPINESS FOR MY SON BECAUSE HE'S NOT SEEING THAT NOW AND HASN'T IN A LONG TIME.
LIKE I SAID....I AM HERE BECAUSE HE ASKED ME TO. I ASKED HIM THE SAME QUESTION. Setting an example!!!??? I am an adulterous woman who has done nothing but hurt your father is a good EXAMPLE???!!! You are soooo in the fog! Your OM is a scumbag who is sticking a knife in your sons heart and something else in you! Truth stings like hell, don't it?
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OH PLEASE....give me a break
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How did your husband find out? Did you confess or were you busted? Question to ponder: If you could have the tools guaranteed to fix this marriage, would you want to?
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OH PLEASE....give me a break Why are you here?
"Rather than love, than money, than fame, give me truth"
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Me, BW-57
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In recovery since D-day, May 28,2007
FWH never onboard the MB boat but still clinging to the side.
One day at a time by God's grace.
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