Divorce absolutely IS NOT an example of happiness.

Going and shoving your snatch in some stranger's face absolutely is not an example of happiness to your child.

It makes his mother a cheating *****.

Starting to sem like it lol.

No it's not. But what's done is done. You think I don't regret the affair. That is why I won't cross the line into another physical relationship. Leaving or not leaving has nothing to do with the OM. It has everything to do with my current situation and being able to get over everything.

Read up on Fog Babble. You could have written the book.

Whatever...you must be a man....everything to you guys is physical. Typical

Yeah sure, your track record is so good!

Fog babble.

If OM has nothing to do with it then why your sickening pining for him as your soulmate?

You posting about him make me wan to vomit.

This quote seems to contradict this line, copied straight from your previous post.

"I told my husband I wanted a divorce a few months ago because the lying and stress from talking to the other guy was just too much"

Please. It's not "done". And there isn't one person in this forum that doesn't think that you would be more than happy to jump on OM's #$%^ and have a ride if he ever showed up and asked you to, so your whole "I won't cross the line" thing is falling upon deaf ears.

The only thing that is "done" is your marriage if you don't wake up and smell the [censored] coffee.

Well rain, you are a proven liar so pretty much everything you say is probably geared toward justifying why you are going to go throw your snatch at some stranger.

I suspected troll too at the first post, maybe not.

Rain, you asked how dare I question your ability as a mother? Because I'm a mother AND a grandmother and I've been married for 30+ years. More importantly, I'm a betrayed spouse. Yep, BETRAYED. That's what you do when you CHEAT. You BETRAY your spouse. Your son sees his MOTHER doing this, what do you think he's going to think?

Sorry, you don't get a free pass because you're "unhappy". Be a DECENT person and divorce your husband FIRST before you begin a relationship with another man. TEACH your son some values. Better yet, HONOR your marriage vows.

You SAY your husband asked you to post. If that's so, then ask him for me to start his own thread. I'm sure there are some betrayed men on here that would love to help him.

What you don't realize is that everything you've described has been said a thousand times on this site by former wayward spouses. You're not special and you're not unique.

Grow up and start understanding that you are HURTING your family with your SELFISHNESS (if you're for real, that is).

BTW: My FWH did the right thing and we've been recovered now for nearly four years.

If you seriously want advice here, then take it and quit being so immature and defensive. You caused this, no one else - so either be willing to take stock of your poor choices and woMAN up or quit wasting these people's time.

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Tou are so [censored] clueless about how you are killing the 2 men in your life.

You are soooo not a real woman!

I write to you from a heart that is literally crying out to stop you from making a HUGE mistake.

My Ex left me for another woman 5 years ago. 5 years ago today in fact. I was not fun enough for him. She treated him like he was the most important thing in the world, and appanrtly I did not do that. Of course I was busy working to pay down bills he created buying his toys. And cleaning a house, raisng 2 kids, keeping up our farm. I could go on.....

6 months after our D she had dropped him like a hot potato. Apparntly she was not interested in making him feel so important anymore. So he found another married woman. She left her H, the two of them got married, and lived happily ever after - or not.
I have seen him once in the past 2 years and he looks like a miserable shell of the man he used to be. He pursued "happiness" with someone who only wanted to do what feels good today. Not looking at long term.

As for me, I eventually found a wodnerful man. He had been single for 7 years when I met him. We live and work close to where both of our kids go to school so we can attend all of their functions - even when we don;t feel like it.

My ex lives only 30 minutes away - but he rarely makes en effort to see his son anymore. It is just too much work. He and his current wife do not get along, so my son doesn;t like to stay at their house. And I think that my Ex carries so much guilt from his bad choices, that it is hard for him to spend time with his son.

I was not the perfect wife. I have made better choices this time

I kiss my H every morning, the minute I wake up. and I kiss him as we both go to work. And I kiss him every night before I go to sleep. I tell him how much I appreciate him. He is honest. He works hard. He loves me. I am the luckiest woman in the world, and I tell him so. And you know what happens? He feels good about himself, so he is a happier man! He enjoys his life. I have made it a point to find things to do together - and we have fun! I would say that I probably put 70% of the effort into our M, into finding things that we both can enjoy togehter, but we have found things to do, and we have fun. it is worth every bit of effort I put into it.

You do not need to have a sad life.

But as long as you have this friend that you talk to, and you compare him to your H, you will not be able to fully give yourself to finding the fun M you want.

and I would suspect your H wants to have fun to. We all do. You are not unique in that. So get busy finding ways to do it.

You will have to give up some of yourself, but it will be worth it.

Take your H by surprise.

***Thud***

"Be a DECENT person and divorce your husband FIRST before you begin a relationship with another man."

Bingo.

Rain...click this link...then type "divorce lawyers" in the browser. Your fogginess is going to lead you here anyway. Get it over with now for your sons sake....


http://www.google.com/webhp?sourceid=navclient&ie=UTF-8

First of all, you need to be honest with yourself. If the POS is a friend, why do you hide your phone and the details of your conversations from your husband? HE IS NOT A FRIEND. Make no mistake about that.

You think your situation is unique. The self centered bullsh!t you're spewing is exactly the same justifications that every wayward wife spews. Your sense of entitlement at the expense of what is true and right is apalling.

To your point above, you need to take a cold hard look at your actions. If you're considering breaking up your son's home in pursuit of a guy who will knowingly pursue a married woman, you ARE an unfit mother. Do you think how you are acting and what you've done contributes even a little bit to the "unhappy" state of the home?...

How dare us?

You're the one who's F-ing around. Think about that.

Do you take any responsibility whatsoever for YOUR actions? If you put half the effort you put into deceiving your husband (who for some reason still loves you) to try to nurture and seduce this ENEMY of your family, into righting the wrongs YOU perpetrated on your family, you might find that you can have a happy home.


YOU ARE MAKING HIS HOME UNHAPPY! Don't you recognize this? You are not showing concern for your son by your actions. Do you want his role model for what a woman and mother should be, to be a wh*re who will seek other men any time she feels a little put out? You want him to learn that it's OK to F around on his wife? IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT???

Why is it so hard? Because you are being weak. You need to take some responsibility for what YOU have done to create this sh!tty home your son has to live in. You're trying to run away from your obligation.

I know I'm smacking you over the head with this, but it is intended to help.

You can make a happy home for your son WITH your husband.

You need to immediately stop contacting POSOM, get through withdrawal and start making yourself a better person than who you've become.

The fact that you are here in the first place tells me that you want to be better and want help. No one else can do that for you.

Cherish the opportunity you have to make up for your past transgressions. Be a strong loving wife and mother and set a good example for your son. He didn't ask for this [censored]. Your husband didn't ask for this [censored], and I'd be willing to bet that you didn't want this [censored] either. You better take advantage of the chance to save your family before it's too late.

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Yea, right... My wife said this EXACT thing when she was commiting adultery on me.

Anyone else???

You pretty much have 3 choices Rain...

1. Leave things status quo and make yourself, H, son, OM, and now MB miserable, because of your own selfishness.

2. Get divorced so your H and your son can get on with their lives...without a selfish person for a mother.

3. Own your [censored], and start to use the members here for some advice on how to recover your M.


Hint:

1 and 2 are reasons for you to pack up and leave MB and get a lawyer.