I don't much like to be considered a "VET"..but other MBers' OLDTIMERS..please check out her thread...

Mimi,

Other people have tried to help out on Brown's thread and you continue to tell her that what they have to say does not have merit.

pom
stella
princess

etc.


I truly do hope that some more MB posters come to Brown's thread and that you don't sabotage their input by telling her they don't know what they are talking about.

There are lots of MB posters who have used Alanon or CODA or other means of "assistance" in rebuilding their M. An IC or a MC has his own way of doing things as well, even if he is pro-marriage.

Why is it confusing? Because it's not the way you would do it? You claim that you have seen her be intellectually strong, why would she not be able to sort through some information from a support group in addition to MB? It was Queenie that first suggested that she go to Alanon.


I mean that with all due respect Mimi.

I have NEVER said what someone else says "does not have merit"...NEVER EVER...


I HAVE NEVER EVER SAID ANY OF THIS...

This is so NOT ME...if I've given you that impression, I'm sorry. You are MISINTERPRETING me.


I appreciate you saying this but I don't think you are being respectful. It would be respectful to quote what I have ACTUALLY said.


No. You seem to want to make this about ME. It is MY OPINION that it's CONFUSING. Others may disagree that why I INVITED OTHERS' OPINIONS on this because I COULD BE WRONG!! Actually, I'm OK with that. I'M WRONG ABOUT A LOT OF THINGS.. OK, MANY THINGS, if not a lot..LOL...

I feel your approach in all of this has been very disrespectful as well as much as I have continued to try to state my desire to help Brown.

You have become territorial with Brown and I'm willing to step out of that. My input was always to give her other options from someone who has had other experiences as I believe the others were as well.

Enough said.

I'm totally not into arguing, Onlyu..

Carry on with Brown.

PLEASE DO.

I'm not TERRITORIAL with her.

You've got me wrong..

Just trying to HELP her...

CARRY ON with her...

Please do..

It's too controversial for me these days...

Mimi - gentle nudge here - you did slam Only's CODA info as NOT being marriage builder protocol. But Brown isn't following MB protocol - and is avoiding it - so why not point her to something that will focus on her personal engagement in drama?

You gave her an out by invalidating Only's contribution to her thread.

Please re-read what you wrote. Having counseled with Steve, you know how valuable MB is. Brown hasn't committed to that path. She's grasping for reasons to stay engaged in her husband's drama. I counseled with Steve's father. He got me engaged in working on myself. Brown isn't really ready to do that either.

But I remember a day when you weren't ready for MB either - that is what gives me such great hope for Brown. You came through your ordeal as the Plan B Queen... eventually Hang in there - just be careful about others contributions... Your response to Only's CODA response was out of character for you.

Agreed...

Not sure about MY CHARACTER though...my view of the FORUM has CHANGED..that may be affecting my posts...

I know I'm only HUMAN..like anyone else..I MAKE MISTAKES..my OPINIONS may be WRONG..

But they are MY OPINIONS...