I will try to make this as short as possible and not babble too much. Me and my "ex" were together for 3 years. We have a one year old son and shortly after I found out I was pregnant with number two he broke up with me and started seeing the neighbor woman. They had been talking for about a month before he broke up with me and then he proceeded to start staying at her house and spending all his time with her. I was completely devestated! I didnt do a good plan A, I didnt know about it at the time. I flipped out for a while and was very mean and pushed him away. We continued living together for 4 months. Towards the end we never saw each other and I stayed away as much as possible because I just couldnt bear to be around him. I decided to move out and I was moved out for a few weeks before he decided to give me the apartment and leave to move in with the neighbor.

So here I am 7 months after the "affair" started, and 3 months after he has moved out. I am trying so hard to move on and be happy but I cant stop thinking about them. I think about him all the time and I still cry over what he did. Im currently due with our son in 3 weeks. I dont know if that is making it harder for me to move forward. Every song, every tv show, everything reminds me of him and god do I miss him terribly. When does this end? It seems like its been forever. It doesnt help that he comes over here to see our son because he has no place to bring him and has to visit him here. Or that he constantly talks about how much he misses me and wants to be with me again and how he made sucha mistake and hes miserable for it now. I hate hearing these things because it gets my hopes up but he has taken no steps to get me back. Its all just talk. He is still living with OW. How should I deal with this? If he really loved and missed me as much as he says he does wouldnt he leave her and then try to reconcile? But something is keeping him with her even though he swears he doesnt want to be with her he wants me. He thinks this baby is going to bring us back together. But if he loved me why would he have to wait until the birth of the baby to make that decision? He has my head so confused most of the time I dont know what to think about him. So badly do I just want to move on and not love him anymore. I do not give in to his words of wanting me back I just simply say "you have a girlfriend that you live with." There is nothing else I can say about it. He HAS to cut her loose before I can even fathom being with him again and its this that he still hasnt done. It hurts so much every day that he is still choosing her over me. I dont know if there is any advice that can be given but if so please share. I just want to be me again, and I feel like Im someone I dont even know anymore.

Sorry you are still going through this. Ignore his talk and watch his actions. Talk is cheap. Is he supporting you and your child?

As of right now he pays child support for our son and thats about all. He doesnt see him unless its in my home and he rarely helps out with him.

Funny enough the day after I posted this he called me up all excited and said he was going to make things up to me and be a better man and a better dad. He told me he wanted nothing from me and would understand if I just told him to go away but that he wants to try his hardest to make things work. He went as far as to call the OW and tell her hes moving out and that he would be there in the morning to get his stuff. He found a place to stay and was all set on getting things straightened out so we could work on things. Then he calls me later that night and tells me that he cant do it. That its hurting the OW too much and he feels too guilty to do that to her. That she was crying all day and begging him and he just cant leave her. After that I was pretty much fed up with his talk and lies and I told him no more. He calls me this morning all ready to move out of her house and leave her again and this time I just simply said, I dont believe you and left it at that. Hes really screwing with my head and its quite obvious he is not ready or willing to do what it takes to be with me. I cant keep letting myself get my hopes up over and over with his lame words but yet I find myself still having hope. It just hurts too much. I think its time to sit down and make up a schedule of days he can see Evan and what time and while he is visiting him I will just leave. Thats the best no contact I can do. That will give him no reason to call here, and no reason to show up whenever he feels like it. And I will be ready and waiting to leave when he gets here and he will get out as soon as I show up. I cant think of any other way to stop him from hurting me with his pointless promises. I think its time I finally be happy and stop letting him hurt me.

((((((((((Momma2Evan))))))))))

I think it's a good idea for you to remove yourself from all the drama. You deserve WAY better.

Charlotte

Hi -

so sorry you are having to deal with a WH. You have a darling baby on the way and taking care of both your "babies" is your top priority. I have been off the boards for a year, so don't know your full story.

Just wanted to let you know someone was thinking about you.

Take care,

Kimberly
D-Day 05
Plan A - 6 months
Plan B - year & 1/2
H moved back in a year ago. World is rocky right now.